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[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

Men! Hold the Fish! Substack is up about the importance of why men need to hold the fish in dating app profiles. #datingapps #datingprofiles #datininginyour40s

https://t.co/pgBiBA984q

[The Disrespected Trucker @DisrespectedThe]

I laugh harder at this video every time I watch it.

[The Sigma Mindset @thesigmamindset]

Anxiety isn't caused by uncertainty. It is caused by this...

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

Why Some Men Aren’t “Giving Up” on Relationships. https://t.co/idTEbHoAM3

[Joe Rogan Podcast News @joeroganhq]

Andrew Huberman: "Someone I really respect said this, 'There are basically two kinds of people in life. Winners and losers.' And the definition is this—losers take things that happen to them... and the wallow and they use it for self or outward destruction."

"Winners take whatever they feel, it sucks, and they transmute it into things that are good for themselves and for the world."

[Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. @hubermanlab]

Still true, was always true. Will always be true. Yes we can look around and see evidence of this but better to just look inward and define your path.

[The Shift Journal @TheShiftJournal]

I've never heard anyone explain how to manifest anything in your life like this before… 🤯

Listen

[Jaynit @jaynitx]

Naval Ravikant on why learning to be alone is a superpower:

"All of man's problems arise because he cannot sit by himself in a room for thirty minutes alone."

Naval used to think constant stimulation was great. When the iPhone came out, boredom was dead; he'd never have to be bored again.

As he puts it:

"When I was a kid I used to try and overclock my brain, how many thoughts can I think at once. I was proud of that. I was proud that my brain was always running; this engine was always moving. And it's a disease. It's actually the road to misery."

Now? He's completely flipped:

"Now that I'm older, I realize you actually want to rest your mind. You want to learn how to settle into your mind. Now I look forward to solitary confinement. You leave me alone for a day, it'll be like the happiest day I've had in a while."

He continues:

"And that is a superpower that I think everybody can attain, the superpower of learning to be alone and enjoying it."

On why meditation is hard at first:

"When you sit down to meditate, those emails start coming back at you. Hey, what about this issue? What about that issue? Your regrets, your issues. That gets scary. People think 'it's not working, I can't clear my mind.' But really what's happening is self-therapy. You just have to sit there as those emails go through one by one until you get to inbox zero."

There comes a day when you realize: "The only things you're thinking about are the things that happened yesterday because you've processed everything else."

That's when meditation actually starts.

[The Sigma Mindset @thesigmamindset]

Realizing this truth will make you uncomfortable ‼️‼️

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

Is it that our expectations disappoint us and not life itself?

[Chris Williamson @ChrisWillx]

How To Get Men To Open Up More

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

Life is hard, it feels harder when we expect it not to be.

[Steven Bartlett @StevenBartlett]

If nothing changes, what will your life actually look like in 2026?

Most people don’t get stuck because they lack ambition - they get stuck because they never pause long enough to choose.

Today I’m joined by Chris Williamson returning to The Diary Of A CEO for the second time, to help make sense of the decisions that shape where we end up next year.

Chris is the host of Modern Wisdom, one of the world’s biggest podcasts, and someone who’s spent years speaking to psychologists and founders about why people struggle to change even when they know what they want.

He talks about the decisions we delay and the discomfort we avoid, and how easy it is to wake up years later wondering where the time went.

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

If life wasn’t hard, it would actually be pointless.

We’re taught that struggling means something’s wrong. That we’ve failed. That we’re behind.

But what if struggling means you’re living, not failing?

The problem isn’t that life’s hard.
The problem is thinking it shouldn’t be

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

When you realise the carrot was too small and the stick too long! 🤦🏻‍♂️😂

[Mindset Machine @mindsetmachine]

Learn to accept this and everything will change 🫶

[Historic Vids @historyinmemes]

An Austrian Tongue Choir from the Alps region of Tyrol sings 'Moscow Nights' with their tongue in a 1982 performance.

[Pat Walls @thepatwalls]

One of the most powerful pieces of content I've ever seen.

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

#OneBattleAfterAnother fell asleep. Think I missed the car chase? Other films I fell asleep watching Moana 2, StarWars a New Hope, Mufasa, Rogue One (love the last 5min). Don’t know what to say, literally fell asleep 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Pab @FromTheAshesPab]

I heard a quote that really shifted how I see alcohol:

‘Drinking is just borrowing happiness from tomorrow.’

It hit me, because every drink comes with a cost, and real joy shouldn’t come on credit.