Okay, here it goes.
First of all, please read this with an open mind and try to understand what I'm actually saying.
I want to talk about approaching women, especially online.
most difficult stuffs;
1. game - chess
2. school subject - mathematics
3. surgery - brain surgery
4. sport - boxing
5. musical instrument - violin
6. place to survive - antarctica
7. exam - gaokao
8. disease to treat - cancer
9. language - mandarin
10. animal to catch - cheetah
11. skill to master - public speaking
12. role in sports - goalkeeper
13. programming language - c++
you might need this list.
Franz Kafka revealed the reason why we often get tired of people.
In fact, we get tired of our own insincerity around them.
We are exhausted by a company where we cannot be genuine:
If you want confidence, stop aiming to avoid failure. Aim to recover fast. Take the hit, learn the lesson, adjust, repeat. The man who can bounce back becomes fearless over time, because he trusts his ability to rebuild even when things go wrong.
MUSIC IS NOT HEARD THE SAME EVERYWHERE:
1. Germany: Music is architecture. Bach, Beethoven, and Brahms built structures in sound that engineers still study. Precision and complexity are not showmanship here. They are the baseline.
2. India: A single note can carry an entire emotional universe. Ragas are not just compositions. They are assigned to specific times of day, seasons, and moods. Playing the wrong raga at the wrong hour is considered a violation of something deeper than taste.
3. West Africa: The drum is not an instrument. It is a language. Talking drums carried messages across villages before any written word existed. Rhythm here is communication, history, and identity compressed into a single beat.
4. Brazil: Music does not perform. It moves. Samba, bossa nova, and baile funk are not genres to be listened to from a seat. They are invitations to participate. Stillness in the presence of Brazilian music is considered a quiet tragedy.
5. Japan: Silence inside the music is as important as the sound itself. Ma is the concept of meaningful pause. What is not played carries as much weight as what is. Western music often fills every space. Japanese music breathes.
6. United States: Music became a product before it became a philosophy. The industry shaped the art more than the art shaped the industry. Yet out of that commercial pressure came jazz, blues, hip hop, and rock. Constraint created the most exported sound in human history.
7. Iran: Classical Persian music is built on emotion so specific that certain compositions were historically believed to cause rain, heal illness, or alter the mental state of the listener. Music and mysticism were never separated here.
8. Cuba: Seven million people produced a musical vocabulary that the entire world borrowed from. Son, mambo, salsa, and rumba all came from one island. Music here is not background. It is the main event of daily life.
9. Greece: Ancient Greeks believed music was mathematics made audible. Pythagoras studied musical intervals as seriously as geometry. The word music itself comes from the Greek word mousike. This was never considered entertainment. It was considered science.
10. Mali: The griot tradition means music carries genealogy, history, and moral instruction. A griot is not just a musician. They are a living archive. To silence a griot is to destroy a library.
11. Korea: Pansori is a single vocalist performing an epic story that can last eight hours without pause. The audience responds, weeps, and shouts encouragement throughout. It is not a performance. It is a shared endurance and a collective emotional journey.
12. Australia: Aboriginal music has been continuous for over sixty thousand years. The didgeridoo is among the oldest wind instruments on Earth. Songs mapped territory, described sacred sites, and guided navigation across vast landscapes. Music here was always a map as much as it was a melody.
13. Ethiopia: Ethiopia uses a pentatonic scale found almost nowhere else. Its church music dates back to the fifth century and has remained largely unchanged since. Listening to it feels less like hearing a song and more like entering a room that has been sealed for fifteen centuries.
14. Bali: Music is inseparable from ceremony. The gamelan orchestra does not perform for an audience. It performs for the gods. Tourists may watch but they are never really the point. The sound is an offering, not a show.
15. Bulgaria: Bulgarian folk music uses time signatures so complex that Western musicians spend years trying to feel them naturally. Seven beats. Eleven beats. Thirteen beats in a single bar. What sounds irregular to an outsider feels completely natural to someone raised inside it.
This is real.
When you don’t have a support system, you have to design structure around yourself instead of relying on people to fill the gaps.
A few things that tend to help:
Build routines that don’t depend on motivation. When things are hard, consistency has to carry you.
Reduce decision fatigue. The less you have to figure out daily, the more energy you save for execution.
Learn to break problems into smaller, independent steps. Big goals feel heavier when you carry them as one block.
Keep a written system for your plans and progress. You can’t always rely on people to remind or guide you.
Build skills that reduce dependence over time, income, communication, problem-solving, and execution.
Protect your mental state aggressively. When there’s no external support, your stability becomes part of your infrastructure.
It’s a different way of operating, but it also builds a high level of self-reliance over time.
there's so much we need to unlearn and this is one.
you don't "correct" a left handed person into becoming right handed yet expect the person to remain the same.
that correcting leaves that child with a terrible change that won't be undone.
being left handed is not a curse!
@arojinle1 Oluko but let be real how many people will have to keep understanding that, I feel the man should’ve at least corrected that when she was much younger. But I love the fact the man was telling them all.
This Thursday, HumAngle is releasing an investigation into Nigeria’s use of “repentant terrorists” in counterterrorism operations.
Until then, here are some of our reporting on Nigeria’s rehabilitation programmes for defectors and their attempts at reintegration.
I genuinely don’t like men who lack self-control and make every interaction with a woman about trying to get her number.
You see a lady working in a supermarket, you collect her number. You meet a receptionist, you collect her number. You meet a POS girl, you collect her number. You buy fuel, and you collect the attendant number again.
Bro, please get yourself together.
Not every woman you meet is a potential romantic interest. Sometimes, people are just doing their jobs.
Constantly trying to turn every encounter into a pickup opportunity isn’t confidence, it’s desperation.
You’re embarrassing yourself and making everyone around you uncomfortable.
Advice To Young Nigerians: Don't Let Your CV Define you
"My wish for you is not that Harvard becomes the last thing people know about you, but instead that Harvard becomes the least important thing people know about you"
@ConanOBrien at Harvard University Class of 2026 Commencement
O'Brien gave words to something that has driven me for the past 11 years: that the offices I once occupied should become the least important thing about me. I never inteoduce myself as former anything. I live in the present.
That is what I love about commencement speeches.
For over fifteen years, every May, I have read and now watch commencement speeches from American universities.
Most people see them as a ceremony. I see them as one of the richest free libraries of wisdom anywhere. Long after my own schooling ended, these speeches keep teaching me about life, leadership, failure, and what it means to be human.
This year, I have listened to many. Three have stayed with me so far.
@RayDalio, founder of Bridgewater, the largest hedge fund in the world, returned to his alma mater, Long Island University, and spoke about the three stages of life.
Dr @LisaSu, a triple MIT graduate in engineering and now CEO of AMD, spoke to a generation anxious about AI and the future of work.
And then Conan O'Brien at Harvard. Graduating with Magna Cum Laude (a First Class) from Harvard, everyone expected him to pursue a prestigious corporate or academic career. Instead, he chose comedy and spent years being underestimated because of it.
His wish for the graduates, he said, was that "Harvard becomes the least important thing people know about you."
That is the whole lesson, and I want every young Nigerian to hear it. Also, he gave them these tips.
Acknowledge Luck: it plays a big role in our lives
Be Ready to Pivot: Always be nimble and ready to adapt
Lead with Kindness: Be humble and nice.
Carry your accomplishments lightly. The school, the title, the office, these may be the first things people know about you. They should never be the most important.
What lasts is the character you build, the value you create, and the people you lift after the applause fades.
Stay humble. Stay adaptable. Be kind.
And never let your CV define you.
Osita Chidoka
4 June 2026