let’s talk about 4 pillars of unhealthy communication. psychologist john gottman dubbed these the 4 horsemen of the relationship apocalypse, and his research suggests they are likely to increase separation: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
The one who saved my life and stomped the shooter’s face in was not a drag queen, she is a trans woman. Let’s not call trans women drag queens during this time of grieving over a transphobic attack.
During a skin exam, the patient told me they had HIV. I acknowledged it and kept inspecting the skin, some areas with my bare hand. Patient teared up and thanked me for not “jumping away” as soon as I learned they were HIV positive. It’s 2022. HIV+ people are not dirty.
If you were “mature for their age” you might have been parentified. Parentification is when a child is made to fill an adult role.
This is an “invisible” trauma that has life long impact.
HERE’S WHY: 🧵