The reason happily coupled people don’t talk about their relationships is because you cannot be low effort in a happy relationship. The moment you explain what you actually do for your partner, somebody calls it slavery, mothering, simping or “doing too much.”
Happy relationships are two people happily doing a lot for each other.
I admire people who have found their purpose and are actually living in it. Like, what a beautiful thing to know what you’re here to do and be thriving in it.
I have these two former colleagues of mine, Seun and Adaora.
Seun is married, and I also know his wife because we attended the same university.
I didn't have any issue with Adaora until she started bringing food for Seun at the office.
It started with, "Oh Seun, I brought you food today."
Before we say jack, it became, "Seun, what would you like me to prepare for you tomorrow?"
At that point, I knew where the whole thing was heading.
Seun was already feeling uncomfortable and didn't know how to handle it, so he came to meet me.
I asked him, "Why doesn't your wife prepare food for you to take to work?"
He replied, "My brother, I don use style tell her before, but she no even make any attempt."
I told him, "No worry, make I handle am."
I called his wife.
"Ayo, how far now?"
"Ah, Mr. Olamide! Good afternoon, sir."
After exchanging pleasantries, I got straight to the point.
"Ayo, you know say I be your person. I honestly think it's a good idea for you to start preparing food for Seun to take to work. I noticed that two different ladies bought him lunch twice last week."
She shouted "Ah!"
I replied, "What do you mean by 'Ah'? If you're packing food from home for him, do you think he'll even have room to be eating food from other women? Before you know it, one of them will start cooking for him regularly."
Within one week, my guy was showing up at the office every day with homemade food.
Sometimes they would pack some snacks for me too.
That was how Adaora's food ministry and Co. came to an end.