I recently came across a beautiful Buddhist teaching: The Two Arrows.
The Buddha once asked his student, "If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?"
The student nodded, yes.
The Buddha then asked, "If a person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?"
The student again nodded, yes.
The Buddha then explained, "In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional."
The first arrow is the negative event that hits our lives.
This is the uncontrollable chaos that we may find ourselves thrown into from time to time.
The first arrow is impossible to avoid. It hits and it hurts.
The second arrow is governed by our response to the first—and as the parable teaches us, being struck by the second arrow is entirely within our control.
Our reaction and response controls the direction and force of the second arrow:
• If we attach ourselves to the pain of the first arrow, continue to think all of the negative thoughts it brought about, repeat the patterns of our past, dwell in the pain, and bemoan our bad luck, we send the second arrow hurtling straight into our open wound.
• If we pause, breathe, give ourselves a moment to reset, and choose a balanced response, we send the second arrow falling feebly to the ground.
Viktor Frankl, the Austrian philosopher and Holocaust survivor renowned for his contributions to existential psychology, has a brilliant framing for this:
"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response."
Our power is in the space that we can create between stimulus and response.
Creating that space is the key to avoiding the second arrow.
As Frankl famously said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
So the next time you encounter an uncontrollable negative event in your life—when you're struck by that painful first arrow—consider the parable of the two arrows.
The first arrow may have hurt, but the second arrow is always optional.
Everybody understands that if you post on the internet you’re going to get hate.
Not everybody understands that if you become big enough... that hate becomes legal.
Thinking you can be huge without legal attacks is the same as thinking you can be small without a stupid hater comment.
The universe operates with balance.
Ying and yang.
You will pay the price for telling the truth.
My life has been effectively destroyed by my fame.
But I wouldn’t change a thing.
It’s completely worth it.
Why?
Is it for money? No. I already have money.
Ego? No. I don’t engage with 99.999% of people who try and speak to me.
Girls? lol. No sir.
The only thing that makes all of this worth it is I know I am genuinely saving men from suicide.
The millions of men who were lost, who now feel purpose.
The young men who avoid crime and drug dealing instead make money online.
The out-of-shape men who go to the gym.
The depressed men who smile.
They make this worth it.
I am the richest man in the world because I know I’ve helped so many people and I know those people truly want the best for me.
I wouldn’t change a thing.
The only support I ask for in return is to be your best self.
Your strongest happiest most competitive self.
That is how you repay me.
That is why telling the truth is worth it for me.
I love you all.
Jason Aldean writes a song defending the values that ALL Americans used to share - faith, family, hard work, patriotism - only to be immediately sacrificed at the altar of censorship & cancellation. These are the same people who cheer songs like “Cop Killer” & the glorification of sex and violence in hip-hop. Stand strong against these hypocrites and opportunist frauds, @Jason_Aldean. It’d be a real shame if the song hits #1. We’ll do our part & play it at our rallies.
Scientists, on the basis of early testing, were saying aspartame was a carcinogen in the late 1970s and early 1980s, but Donald Rumsfeld, who was CEO of the company that owned Aspartame, became part of the Reagan transition team and got to appoint the new head of the FDA, who then went on to cast the deciding vote in favour of allowing Aspartame into the American food supply. When Monsanto acquired the company that owned Aspartame soon after, Rumsfeld was paid $12 million by Monsanto as a golden handshake, almost certainly for his direct intervention to get Aspartame past the safety board.
This isn't an isolated story of corruption, of corporate profits being put before the health of the nation. This is how the system works. It's why the American food supply is loaded with ingredients whose effects on human health are totally unknown. It's why we regularly discover that common food ingredients are extremely harmful.
Take propionic acid (PPA), for instance. This common antifungal, used to extend the shelf life of processed food, is found in highly elevated levels in the stool of autistic children. Many cases of autism appear to be linked to gut dysfunction and microbial overgrowth, which PPA probably encourages by "nuking" the good microbes in the gut, allowing aggressive strains to invade and take hold.
The whole system needs to change. We need an independent system which doesn't allow corporate influence to override the basic rights of the people to eat food that really is safe.