If I’m having a tough conversation with you, it’s because I want u in my life & want you to tighten up so I can keep u in it. I’m not attacking you.
You call her toxic now, but you met her when she was kind, open, and trusting. She became guarded because you kept hurting her, reactive because you kept crossing lines, and tired because she kept choosing you while you chose yourself. That wasn’t toxicity. That was damage.
You gotta carry yourself in a way that people don't even feel comfortable approaching you with bullshit. Make your standards clear without saying a word.