If I could go back and talk to my younger self as a coach…
Here’s what I’d say:
1. Relationships first
2. Simplicity wins
3. Players, not plays
4. Culture is built every day
5. Mentors matter
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Here is my real issue with many of these TikTok-y tax strategies: Many have a grain of truth to them (see: hiring your kids) but the real work needed by ordinary taxpayers to ensure compliance often exceeds the "win."
Don't chase a #tax benefit, chase a sound financial decision.
When coaches say "listen to the message, not the tone," or "absorb what is said, not how it is being said," I'm often left wondering….why that, too, is put on the player? If your tone or delivery hinders your ability to best deliver your message and have it acted upon positively, then change your tone or delivery. I get it, coaching is hard. But, coaches talk a lot about getting better and being accountable, rightfully so. Then, coaches need to be accountable for the tone and delivery of the message, and strive to get better. Your tone and delivery is not on the players, it’s on you.
"If I'm hiring a coach, I'm hiring a culture builder. Every coach will know the game but can they connect, communicate a clear vision, hire/recruit/develop people well, multiply their leadership? Coaching is about X's and O's. Leadership is about culture."
~ via @KevinDeShazo
Accountability is not about calling someone out, playing "gotcha", or controlling someone else. Accountability is about reminding others of standards, goals, and values. Accountability requires trust, love, and respect.
“I told the guys they were going to be treated like men. We're going to be respectful as a coaching staff. We're going to tell you the truth, and everything we do is going to be positive. It's going to be positive reinforcement and positive feedback. I let them know that. I don't want my coaching staff cussing out players or demeaning players because that isn't helpful,” @DRyans59
Leadership makes a difference.
Phil Jackson said, "Leadership is not about forcing your will on others. It's about mastering the art of letting go."
Great leaders believe they serve the team.
Leadership isn't about receiving, it's about giving and supporting the team.
Servant leadership is the art of letting go and realizing that the real power of leadership is empowering others, caring for others, and giving them what they need.
• It means caring.
• It means empowering others.
• It means letting go.
6 Habits to Master Servant Leadership
1. Believe in People and Their Potential: When you believe in people, you build their confidence, motivate, and inspire. See the best in others and believe in them. Have faith in their capabilities and their potential. Recognize that each individual has unique strengths and talents. Create an environment where these can be developed and utilized.
2. Let go and Empower Others: This is the art of letting go as a leader. You have to have faith and trust in your team. Empower them, love them, and care for them. You have to be smart, tough, and use good judgment. It should be easy to serve them and want to see them at their best.
3. Connect and View Other People's Perspectives: Ask people for their opinions and feedback. Be empathetic and actively listen to their point of view. This approach builds deeper connections and helps in addressing their needs effectively. This is important because it allows you to connect and build relationships with people. When you walk in their shoes, you show that you care.
4. Add Value to Others: It’s easy to just sit back and wait around, but you need to take action. Add value and serve people means taking action. You need to help people get to where they need to be. Focus on what you can do for your team rather than what they can do for you. Your greatest achievement is helping others succeed.
5. Measure Success by the Team's Success, Not Your Own: It isn't about what you can accomplish, but asking what can we accomplish together. Ask yourself what can we build together that is special and can last? The goal should be to make it bigger than just the bottom line, whether that is winning games or making money. Your collective success is the true reflection of effective leadership.
6. Earn Respect Through Your Actions: It shouldn't just be about yourself, but it should be about the team. Demonstrate your commitment through your actions. You should have a great attitude, be collaborative, and work together. If you can help each other accomplish what you need then you have a chance to be great.
"If serving is below you, leadership is beyond you." - Anonymous
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Good coaches know the X’s and O’s, the tactics, and strategies that lead to winning BUT great coaches know their athletes. Great coaches go beyond the X’s and O’s. Great coaches know how to inspire their athletes to do their best and maximize their chances for success.
In 1989 I randomly sat next to a cute girl at college orientation. I mustered the courage to say hi. I’ve been married to that girl for 26 years.
In 1999 a friend invited me to try rock climbing. I said yes and discovered a life-long passion.
In 2017 while sitting in a board meeting I had an epiphany: This isn't the life I want. I quit my job and moved the fam to Boulder with no plan. The rest is history.
Here’s the crazy thing about life:
One action, one decision, one pivotal moment can change everything (for better or worse).
But here's the trick:
You don’t know beforehand which action will be the game-changer.
That’s why it’s important to have a strong bias toward action. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
Make that phone call you’ve been putting off
Push through when you feel like quitting
Have that uncomfortable conversation
Introduce yourself to that cute guy/girl
Check out that church or faith group
Ask for that promotion or raise
Apply for that new job
Sign up for that class
Start that side hustle
Post that tweet
Take that trip
The world belongs to the bold. Be a seeker, open to change and opportunity.
And most importantly...
Shoot your shot.