CANโT WAIT TO MOVE INTO A SIMPLE APARTMENT WITH THE LOVE OF MY LIFE AND FALL ASLEEP AND WAKE UP NEXT TO THEM AND COOK DINNER WITH THEM AND HAVE RANDOM MIDNIGHT TRIPS AND STAY UP LATE PLAYING VIDEO GAMES OR WATCHING MOVIES AND BEING ABLE TO SHARE EVERY MOMENT OF MY LIFE WITH THEM
emotionally unavailable people create emotionally unavailable people. it doesnโt happen overnight. itโs when someone is enthusiastic about showing their care and attention, and they get told theyโre too overwhelming or too much. it destroys the spirit of passionate people
I canโt express this enough, you have NO IDEA what other people carry with them everyday. You have NO IDEA what someoneโs life is like. Donโt create more pain & stress to others. Be kind. BE genuine. Stop being so mean to people to fulfill whatever it is you donโt like about you
iโve been thinking about how often we confuse chemistry for compatibility. they might make you laugh & entertain you through good conversation but do they make you feel seen, heard & appreciated? are you both on the same page when it comes to communication or emotional maturity?
the pain that comes with discovering that the person you regularly hold space for, has no desire to do that for you. they just want access to your energy without putting in the work to deserve that access. to realize your friend is not the type of friend your soul actually needs.
"can i call?" ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ
Trauma makes you feel like you have to be available for someone who is emotionally unavailable so you can feel worthy and they won't abandon you. Healing makes you realize your self-worth comes from within, not from others, and reciprocity is the key to healthy relationships.
When you commit to a partner, you also commit to their past, their coping mechanisms, and their communicate style. Choose wisely. They will be the greatest impact on your overall mental wellness.
Normalize loving some people from a distance. Normalize saying no without explaining yourself. Normalize forgiving some people without reconnecting with them. Normalize removing yourself from anything that irritates your soul, triggers your mental health, and lowers your vibe.
Iโve learned that a lack of consistency is a dealbreaker for me in any connection. irregular bursts of intensity donโt do it for me at all. consistency creates longevity
If someone ghosts you, respect the dead and never disturb them again. If someone gives you the silent treatment, enjoy your quiet time. Normalize not taking things personally, letting people be themselves without trying to change or control them, and living your life accordingly.