@shekreature In the vogue video, she says that the crystals on the veil are constellations. She wanted to bring her middle name and have every piece of her looks feel like an embodiment of her.
To be clear, this isn’t outside a mall or in a park where random people are smoking it’s outside talking to my neighbor, who is very kind and usually asking if I need anything. I have nothing against anyone who smokes, it’s their choice. As is mine and my son’s future choice.
Why do people take it as a personal insult that I don’t want to breathe in the smoke from their cigarettes? “Well it’s outside I don’t think it matters” Like I said I’m a stickler for my doctors advice and I don’t want to take the choice to duck up my sons lungs away from him?
y’all are letting american individualism melt your fucking brains oh my god hearing a baby cry while you’re getting coffee is not going to end your life. it’s part of being outside. in public. where people are. babies are people btw
There’s a mom at our school drop-off. Messy bun, always three minutes late, kids usually eating dry cereal out of a Ziploc. The "Pinterest moms" always whispered about her. I honestly felt a little bad for her.
Then one day at the playground, my neurodivergent son had a massive, violent sensory meltdown. I’m sitting in the dirt, crying, totally paralyzed.
The "perfect" moms just stared and pulled their kids away.
Suddenly, she’s there. The messy mom.
She drops her giant bag, sits right in the dirt next to us, pulls a heavy sensory toy out of her purse, and calmly shields my son from the crowd. No panic. No judgment. He regulated in three minutes. I was speechless.
We had coffee after. She told me her house is a disaster and she has severe ADHD, but she knows exactly what a nervous system collapse looks like.
I asked her how she deals with the judgmental stares from the other moms.
She took a sip of her cold coffee and said: "Perfect moms know how to bake organic muffins. Chaotic moms know how to survive the trenches."
Every time I see her running late now, I just smile. Girls, be like the messy mom. Stop apologizing for your chaos.
Ever ask someone directly a question, have them turn around, you know they heard you, and just have them turn around and act like it didn’t happen? No?? Sounds like a script? Ya me too, until today
Lmao, it’s funny finding out the info you’ve always kind of known but it was a sneaking suspicion and you put it to the side because you’re a grown up. And then find out 3 years later what you’ve practically always known, but the difference in life and maturity makes you laugh.