The ‘decolonising’ of FGM continues apace
“we adopt the more neutral expression ‘female genital practices’ throughout this paper. This term allows us to refer inclusively and descriptively to a diverse set of practices without prejudging their ethical, medical or cultural status.”
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AFGHAN WOMEN WITH ONE EYE
This isn't a dystopia. This is the reality
of 2025.
In Afghanistan, women are now officially told that "one eye is enough
to see."
They are instructed to cover the other eye with a patch under the burqa.
So I have this prickly but lovely elderly neighbour, right, who recently asked me if I could come & help her with “the trans”. That’s how she worded it.
And if you know me, you know she picked the right woman for the job!
*Grace let me in & nervously asked what she thought was a very serious favour.
“The trans” she said “I’ve been told one may be coming over & I must know what to say.”
I asked for more info.
*Grace is now 78 & wishes to live her Golden Years at home, & not be forced in to a care facility. She doesn’t have family, her husband died years ago & now she relies on home help to keep her independent. She recently fell, so has to have a carer in every day.
She was asking me, it turned out, on advice on how to kindly ask any “trans” who comes to her home that she’s fine today & doesn’t need care.
She does need care. Intimate care, help changing & bathing, as although she’s a fire cracker, her hip isn’t co-operating anymore. I quite agree & plan on being an old stubborn hermit myself, one day, but she felt like she had to explain herself & I let her. Turns out, her story is quite sad.
At first I thought she’d heard about “the trans” on the news & was being “of her generation” until I heard her history. She makes good tea & great apple cake, so we settled in & I spent an afternoon chatting. My twin is trans, see, so my first instinct is always to encourage acceptance.
I won’t be too graphic but turns out, Grace had a lot to worry about. Along with CSA, spending her ‘20s as a secretary where “late nights with the bosses” was part of the job (😤), to a sexually violent incident with a young man who once “got” Grace at 55 YEARS OLD(😭), Grace doesn’t like men in her home.
Does that sound fair? My elderly neighbour, after a lifetime of building her community, working in public service & being kind to everyone, would like to spend her retirement in dignity, safe from men. I think she has a right to that after what she’s been through.
It gets worse. Though Grace did marry, it was what she called a “marriage of convenience” at 45. He was game, she was convinced, & after 20 years as friends they promised to live happily in a “separate bedrooms” marriage.
It was not illegal to rape your wife back then, as it is now. When she said her vows, so jeered her new husband, she’d “pre-consented”. Forever. (🤬)
She describes it as the most terrifying 14 years of her life & it made me want to cry. And rage.
Ofc I abandoned my trans acceptance speech & went to call the care people as surely she could request female only care?
No, she couldn’t. She’d tried but been snapped at by one of her care team & told that “abuse towards staff was not tolerated”. All she’d asked is if she could have truly female only care!
And she’d not just been told off for her request; she’d been shamed & berated.
Here’s how I feel - Grace, at 79, deserves to have her dignity in her Golden Years & not live in fear of a *male being given access to her home to bathe her. She should be able to ask for women only care & truly get it, & not be called a hateful bigot or blacklisted from life-sustaining services.
Single sex services aren’t just about safety but dignity. Respect. Granting the wishes of our vulnerable without chastising or “educating” them in their Golden Years.
Grace doesn’t hate trans people, she just doesn’t want to be touched intimately by anyone male. & considering how many men have disregarded that preference (😡) I feel she should be allowed to say No, set her boundaries, & have them finally respected. & shame on any trans person who would deny her that.
I don’t know how I’m going to put this to the care company, but I’ll do it firmly & in a way which leaves behind a policy which gives all elderly women in my area the right to truly female only care. Without being called hateful transphobes or - as Grace was about to do - signing off needed services essential for her quality & length of life.
I’m so glad Grace asked. Wish me luck.
@stellacreasy I took an 11 day old baby & her 1 & 2 yo sibs to the child minder because , like many self employed people, I needed to earn money. No such luxury of taking baby with me. Same happened again when baby no 4 was 11 days old with sibs aged 1,2 & 3. You don’t get a prize for this.
Remember when it was outed in court that the majority of the LGB Alliance were heterosexuals?
Well... This years conference was opened by J K Rowling...
You guessed it...
A heterosexual.
if the presence of ppl who hold an opposite view and want to discuss the law is distressing, then your mind is going to be blown to tiny pieces when you find out what democracy is
Our right to hold and express sex realist beliefs are protected in UK law thanks to Forstater vs CGD Europe and Miller vs College of Policing. Self ID is not the law in the UK and it is not appropriate for activists to train our officers and staff in law, guidance and policy.
“You can never go back.”
“If I had known about the irreversible physical damage I caused my body, then I would have never done any of this.”
Survivors of “Gender Confirming Surgery” talk about the realities of living with the aftermath of this medical scandal.
An Employment Tribunal has found that Prof Jo Phoenix, represented by Annie Powell at Leigh Day, was discriminated against and harassed by her employer, the Open University, because of her gender critical beliefs. She won her claim for constructive dismissal.
✍️ 'Transgender model Munroe Bergdorf is not a fitting champion of universal values' | Writes @jo_bartosch
Read the full comment piece ⤵️
https://t.co/qNDwz4szGn
Warning: this isn’t one of my quirky, fun stories. It’s a good example of WHY I’m so quirky & find the fun where I can, but it’s not nice.
So my twin & I are 5 years old & my mother has just remarried. A nice, proper guy with a good job, Stepdad himself was a pillar of his community.
We, two little Swedish girls, were told to be extra good bc we wouldn’t want to ruin things for our mother, would we? We were baggage & baggage should be well behaved or it’ll be sent to a boarding school. Their wedding day was lovely, we were bridesmaids, it was very, very proper.
Unfortunately, though Stepdad was & still is great, HIS Dad was a pedophile & a rapist. It must have been like all his Christmases come at once when his only son married a very obliging woman & she had two twin daughters who barely spoke English & were to do as they were told. And oh, the things he wanted us to do.
The grooming started immediately. He’d put us in the back of his car & have us read pornographic magazines aloud to him to “prove our English reading skills”. He was always on hand to take us to the little girls room at church & we visited him in Wales, often. He’d come downstairs in the middle of the night & my twin & I would argue over who’s “turn” it was to sleep by the door, because “She Who Sleeps By The Door” would be who he “got”.
We wouldn’t argue about who WOULDN’T sleep by the door; we’d argue about who WOULD. I would insist it was always my turn as it was almost worse to lie there pretending to be asleep as my twin was raped. In the end, I’d get up & wait in the hallway so she never had to go through it. We were twins, after all. He didn’t know the difference. I can’t imagine how pleased he must have been with himself when he first tiptoed downstairs to find a six year old girl obediently waiting on the stairs in the dead of night for her punishment. How easy I made it for him.
That’s grooming.
By age 10, Nan & Pop had moved to the same town as us & I’d been “volunteered” to clean for them. Nan had Alzheimer’s, she had no idea what was going on. I cleaned too, of course, but most of the work was done in the spare bedroom. I got a chocolate afterwards. I never cried.
When our little sister was born, Pop reminded me that if it wasn’t me, it would be her. That was fear unlike any other. Just as I was turning 12, it got too much so I begged to go to the Boarding School. I came home at the weekends to “clean”, believing him when he said he was sick & I was his medicine. I had two terminations as a teen. No one in my family thought that was strange at all.
It took me until the age of 22, after 17 years of grooming & repeated & ever-worsening abuse & rape, to finally realise This Wasn’t Normal. It hit me like a brick. I stopped visiting. Furious, Pop did come to my work a few times & it would be like I left my body & returned to sitting in that hallway in Wales hoping it would be over quickly. In the end, at 23, I moved jobs, told reception never to let him in no matter what he said & never saw him again.
He’s dead, now. Sorry, I know you’re supposed to be sad when people are dead but do I get to be relieved? Because I am relieved. He was 92.
He left me his wife’s wedding rings. Welsh Gold from 1918 & 1922. A final “You belong to me” reminder.
But I don’t. I never did. He was a rapist & a pedophile & a groomer & men like this get away with their crimes far too often.
I’m currently trying to retrieve those rings from Stepdad (who has them “for safekeeping”) so that I can melt them down & destroy, forever, the horrors they represent. Like a Horcrux.
I’ve just spent a year terrorised by TRA’s for daring to assert that I (as a lesbian) don’t ever want to sleep with anyone male. They’ve torn my life apart. Death/rape threats daily.
*screams in to the void*
I’m opening a Women’s Only Bar. No Males. Our staff will be Women In Recovery bc I am not unique.
Here we are as bridesmaids. God,if we only knew what was coming.
Women Need Sanctuaries.
I actually can't deal with this being real life anymore. How? How the hell are people taking this seriously? 😭
His bio 😭😭😭... of course he is a "proud lesbian" and he wants to challenge himself "to be the best woman" he can be.
We are living in clown world and men like this may be ridiculous (I'm sorry he his), what terrifies me though are all the manics who see him and think "Yes that's a lesbian, let's get her to stand for our Party"
This story makes me so angry. As editor of @JewishChron I spent the years after Corbyn became Labour leader fighting the party’s antisemitism. Most Labour MPs were either complicit in it or said nothing to upset party members. @RosieDuffield1 was one of the very few who refused to be cowed by the party’s Jew haters.
The idea that trans ideologues are using antisemitism as a stick with which to attack an MP who makes them look like the moral pygmies they are is grotesque. But typically so.
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