Hadrian Temple

Author of gay bdsm fiction, leatherman, ethical dom and #findom ($hadriantemple, Find his writings on Amazon/B&N. 18+ only

[Hadrian Temple @HadrianTemple]

My #bdsm #gayerotica is on Amazon
Leather God Descending: https://t.co/UrEG4HIPF6
Claiming the Slave: https://t.co/5y82QeAA35
Bull and Cuck: https://t.co/mGkUlkbihP
Silhouette: Captured and Conquered: https://t.co/M4hGSZcCmJ
Leather Daddy: https://t.co/hFw1vGqSN9
#kink

[Hadrian Temple @HadrianTemple]

@DrewKramer @MistrQ_fs @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside I mean ‘scene’ in the common usage of that word among kinksters.

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@DrewKramer @MistrQ_fs @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside Here’s another flaw I see in your approach. Is it acceptable to renegotiate the boundaries of a scene during the scene? Most kinksters, myself included, would say no, but your position would seem to say yes.

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@DrewKramer @MistrQ_fs @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside You seem to be taking a Caveat Emptor approach to power exchange—anything the dom can trick the sub into accepting is ok, so long as the sub consents to what’s happening.

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@DrewKramer @MistrQ_fs @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside Why? A) because I want him to be happy. B) because I want to protect him. C) because I want his informed consent, not just his ignorant consent. D) because I want him to trust me. E) because not informing him is manipulative—the thing you accuse Colin of doing

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@DrewKramer @MistrQ_fs @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside The dom bears no responsibility for the consequences. Power and responsibility for how one uses that power are inseparable—you can’t have one without the other.

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@DrewKramer @MistrQ_fs @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside How does that change the fact that Ray, as both the experienced one and the dom, has a duty to teach Colin how to do things in a kinky relationship? Your approach suggests that, as long as the sub can walk out, the dom can literally do anything, up to maiming the sub, and

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@MistrQ_fs @DrewKramer @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside And might have some vague notion of kink. Ray’s treatment of him at the start clearly confuses him—he doesn’t know what to make of it. Even if he’s seen a kinky relationship—which we have no evidence of—he has no lived experience of it. So he’s a novice.

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@MistrQ_fs @DrewKramer @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside He has never been in a relationship before and may in fact be a virgin when he meets Ray. And we have 0 reason to think he’s seen a master/slave before. So his only models for relationships are the vanilla ones around him and in the culture. At best he’s seen a few gay couples

[Hadrian Temple @HadrianTemple]

My local boy accepted the status of It. I’m very proud of it for starting that transition!

One of the things I love about this hood is the gag makes him slurp, which he finds really humiliating.

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@DrewKramer @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside Yes, it’s a relationship. But it’s a relationship Colin has no frame of reference for—he’s never seen one like this. Ray has, so both as the dom and the experienced partner, Ray has the work of teaching Colin, and he fails to do it.

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@DrewKramer @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside I agree it’s manipulative. But what other option does he have? He wants the relationship to continue but he has needs he doesn’t know how to express, and Ray hasn’t given him any tools to express them.

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@DrewKramer @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside True. But keep in mind that Colin is a total novice—he knows -nothing- about healthy power exchange. Ray has a duty to educate him and doesn’t. Ray is in charge, which means he bears the responsibility for anything that goes wrong.

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@DrewKramer @markanaki99 @leatherdarkside I disagree. Ray’s unwillingness to communicate puts Colin in a position where he feels self-injury is his only option for getting his needs met. That is 100% on Ray’s head for not creating a way for Ray to be heard.

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@ChamberofFit Meals

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@JunusAnna @jann2405 Given that, men who want to rape women don’t need to disguise themselves as women, because most rapists won’t be punished. So why on earth would a man bother doing what you claim they are doing? It’s a farcical idea on its face.

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@JunusAnna @jann2405 I’m very concerned about rape. It’s a serious problem. Did you know that less than 2% of rape accusations reported to the police end in a conviction? Given the very low rate of false rape claims, that means that most rapists have little risk of conviction.

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@JunusAnna @jann2405 So it is possible for a person with a penis to have a female brain and self-identity.

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@JunusAnna @jann2405 My point is that your argument that biology is rigid fact is simply wrong, as anyone who actually studies biology can tell you. A small percentage of people with male bodies have female brains and vice versa—genitals and brains develop at different times during pregnancy…

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@jann2405 @JunusAnna Technically they aren’t male—males are XY. So biology is less rigid than you want to imagine.

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@jann2405 @JunusAnna And to clarify, people with Kleinfelter have XXY chromosomes.

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@jann2405 @JunusAnna If biology is a rigid fact, why are some people born with Kleinfelter syndrome, which gives them both breasts and a penis?