HannaH

#liveandletlive typa person! #bs intolerant

[HannaH @hannesambo]

Watching everything you dreaded unfold right before your eyes. And you have no power over it.

[HannaH @hannesambo]

@aedcelectricity 11:30 has come and gone and no power still. What is really wrong???

[HannaH @hannesambo]

@aedcelectricity @asasbaby This is quite frustrating sincerely. Buying already expensive fuel for three days now just to have electricity. Please what exactly is the problem with the supply at Jahi and how much longer do we have to endure the outage??

[HannaH @hannesambo]

!!!

[Wow, He’s Tsonga! @_aboihasnoname]

It’s very important to decide to be happy the moment you wake up, do not dwell into things you have no control over.

[HannaH @hannesambo]

A quiet acceptance.

[Aproko Doctor Global @aproko_doctor]

Life hack:

It's good for your mental health to always have someone that is always happy to see you.

If you don't have someone, get a pet that is always excited to see you.

You need to feel what it means to matter.

[HannaH @hannesambo]

Just can’t shake off that nasty feeling…

[HannaH @hannesambo]

This flight mode switch is almost spoilt cos of the daily triggers. Sad, tiring stuff.

[The Biblical Man @Biblicalman]

My wife stopped fighting with me in 2018.

I thought we'd finally figured it out.

No more arguments about the dishes. No more sighing when I forgot something. No more asking me to help with things I should've noticed myself.

Peace.

That's what I called it.

For two years I lived in that silence thinking we'd reached some kind of marital maturity.

Then one night—11 PM, night before Thanksgiving—I found her crying in the kitchen.

Making pie crust from scratch because my mother had made a comment the year before about store-bought being "fine, I guess."

I asked what was wrong.

She looked at me like I was a stranger.

"Nothing."

That's when I realized:

She hadn't stopped fighting because things were better.

She stopped fighting because she stopped believing I would ever change.

The silence wasn't peace.

It was resignation.

She'd built her entire life around my absence…while I was still in the house. Eating the food she cooked. Sleeping in the bed she made. Parenting the kids she was raising.

And I called it partnership because I brought home a paycheck.

Most men don't have a marriage problem.

They have an absence problem.

Their wives stopped asking because asking hurt too much.

So they carry it alone. The meals. The schedules. The mental load. The holidays.

And we sit on the couch checking our phones thinking "at least we're not fighting anymore."

Brother, fighting would be better.

Anger means she still believes you could change.

Silence means she made peace with the fact that you won't.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving.

Your wife is going to wake up before you. Start cooking while you sleep. Manage the chaos while you watch the parade. Clean up while you digest.

Unless you don't let her.

I wrote the protocol for coming home to a marriage you've been absent from.

The 5 stages of wifely resignation.
Why "I'll do better" doesn't work anymore.
The 30-day silent rebuilding system.
The conversation she needs to hear.

It's called "When She Stopped Asking."

Link below if you want it.

But whether you buy it or not—wake up first tomorrow.

[HannaH @hannesambo]

Very frustrating.

[bebet @StorytellerShee]

You start explaining something to someone, and it dawns on you that you have no descriptive words whatsoever

[HannaH @hannesambo]

Most times it’s the seemingly little things. Make you deliriously happy or pained beyond belief…

[HannaH @hannesambo]

@asasbaby @aedcelectricity We have entered into the 2nd day without power. Pls how much longer will it take to resolve the issue??

[HannaH @hannesambo]

How did we get here?🙁

[HannaH @hannesambo]

@itsmryas @societyhatesjay That shelf is 😍

[HannaH @hannesambo]

BS

[COCO @TWOTIMESABITCH]

y'all are terrified of initiating conversation after conflict. i'm not your mother. i'm not whatever ex that used to blow up on you. i'm an adult that wants to hear you, be heard, and heal what's happened between us. silence is not a resolution.

[Sweet Ope @SwitOpe]

People shouldn’t have the audacity to speak ill of your friends in your presence. Always shut that shit down.

[HannaH @hannesambo]

@aedcelectricity pls is there a particular reason where a part of Jahi is going on 30+ hours without power??? Haba !!

[HannaH @hannesambo]

@TheIfunanya Seee! 😔