@aedcelectricity@asasbaby This is quite frustrating sincerely. Buying already expensive fuel for three days now just to have electricity. Please what exactly is the problem with the supply at Jahi and how much longer do we have to endure the outage??
Life hack:
It's good for your mental health to always have someone that is always happy to see you.
If you don't have someone, get a pet that is always excited to see you.
You need to feel what it means to matter.
My wife stopped fighting with me in 2018.
I thought we'd finally figured it out.
No more arguments about the dishes. No more sighing when I forgot something. No more asking me to help with things I should've noticed myself.
Peace.
That's what I called it.
For two years I lived in that silence thinking we'd reached some kind of marital maturity.
Then one night—11 PM, night before Thanksgiving—I found her crying in the kitchen.
Making pie crust from scratch because my mother had made a comment the year before about store-bought being "fine, I guess."
I asked what was wrong.
She looked at me like I was a stranger.
"Nothing."
That's when I realized:
She hadn't stopped fighting because things were better.
She stopped fighting because she stopped believing I would ever change.
The silence wasn't peace.
It was resignation.
She'd built her entire life around my absence…while I was still in the house. Eating the food she cooked. Sleeping in the bed she made. Parenting the kids she was raising.
And I called it partnership because I brought home a paycheck.
Most men don't have a marriage problem.
They have an absence problem.
Their wives stopped asking because asking hurt too much.
So they carry it alone. The meals. The schedules. The mental load. The holidays.
And we sit on the couch checking our phones thinking "at least we're not fighting anymore."
Brother, fighting would be better.
Anger means she still believes you could change.
Silence means she made peace with the fact that you won't.
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving.
Your wife is going to wake up before you. Start cooking while you sleep. Manage the chaos while you watch the parade. Clean up while you digest.
Unless you don't let her.
I wrote the protocol for coming home to a marriage you've been absent from.
The 5 stages of wifely resignation.
Why "I'll do better" doesn't work anymore.
The 30-day silent rebuilding system.
The conversation she needs to hear.
It's called "When She Stopped Asking."
Link below if you want it.
But whether you buy it or not—wake up first tomorrow.
y'all are terrified of initiating conversation after conflict. i'm not your mother. i'm not whatever ex that used to blow up on you. i'm an adult that wants to hear you, be heard, and heal what's happened between us. silence is not a resolution.