Jerod Harper

Christian, Husband, Father, Executive Pastor @ Redeemer Church Eastside (Bellevue, WA), Proud alumnus of @sbts and @obunews

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@KodyGibby Have you guys written about Stephen Wilson on Music Swap? He's got some great stuff. Check out his cover of Stand by Me. https://t.co/7ac4FXPsjA

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@grcastleberry Yes. Have you read the books?

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@Jaime_E_Owens If you use @PlanningCenter you can print one off very easy.

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@Paulsanchez408 As an alumnus, I am so happy to see this news. Proud of all the hires in the religion department that OBU has made. #zipbangOBU

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@griffingulledge That is amazing.

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@lukedsimmons @Seth_Troutt What are the best resources on creating church staff culture and values?

[Josh Hawley @HawleyMO]

In the dead of night, the Senate voted to allow billions in taxpayer money to go to trans treatments - hormones, puberty blockers - for MINORS. Unconscionable. Is the House now going to do the same?

[Andrew T. Walker @AndrewTWalker]

Life is beautiful. All lives.

Full dignity resides intrinsically by virtue of the kinds of beings we are, not what we can do.

There are no asterisks in deciding whose life matters.

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@DavidSchrock @Christ_OverAll Is this article going to be in an audio version? https://t.co/n1icP72UvK

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This book from Jamie Dunlop @9Marks is excellent. I return to it every year during budgeting. If you are an #executivepastor or are in charge of the budget, this book will bless you and your church.

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@mitchellchase @lukestamps Didn't realize there needed to be a whole book written on Dan Brown's book or the movie. I love these behind-the-scenes type works. 😉

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3. Will the person who shared it with me be upset that I shared it with my wife?

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At the Coram Deo Conference last week, @Helopoulos gave these questions to help pastors as they consider what to share with their wives.
1. Will she give me counsel I can't get anywhere else?

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2. Will this affect her worship? Will it change her view of another member?

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“…a marriage blessed by God serves the extension of the human race and the subjection and dominion of the earth…” Herman Bavinck #christianfamily

[Michael Foster @thisisfoster]

Here are four ways wives can improve their relationship with their husbands...

1. Grow in making your needs and desires more explicitly known. Men tend to communicate in a very straightforward linear way. Women not so much. Learning to speak a little “man” will go a long way in improving your marriage. Most husbands are eager to help their wife and aren’t picking up on your subtle hints.

2. Touch him a lot. And it doesn’t even need to be flirtatious touching, though he’ll like that. Men like hugs, kisses, shoulder rubs, you brushing up against him etc. It can be subtle stuff. Your softness keeps him gentle. It can melt and even prevent an anger or cold heart.

3. Tell him you appreciate him and give him a specific example. Most men don’t need a lot of praise. They can run off a little for a long time. But the hard work of leading, providing, and protecting can be a grueling grind. Even the best husband can get discouraged or, worse yet, feel unappreciated by his family. Encourage him. No matter what he says, it would mean the world to him.

4. Be as sexually available as you can. Both men and women have a powerful sex drive. But men experience a much more constant and active sex drive. Women tend to be very cyclical as a result of hormonal changes. You being a consistent source of pleasure and comfort is good for your marriage.

Here are four ways husbands can improve their relationship with their wives...

1. Happily and frequently catch a ride on that “conversational rollercoaster.” Men can tend to expect a conversation to result in a punchline or call to action. Many wives, however, engage in conversation simply for the enjoyment of sharing their experiences with others. Don’t rush the conversation to some forced conclusion. The destination might be the journey. Just enjoy that this woman wants you to be part of her life. Listen intently. Practice asking “then what” or “what else has been going?” She is sharing herself with you. Don’t reject her.

2. Touch her non-erotically. Long hugs, holding hands, and back rubs go a long way. Don’t always try to convert them to sex. Just be with her. Make her feel physically cherished and safe.

3. Just tell her you want to have sex. Don’t walk around secretly resenting your wife for her inability to read your mind. Many wives are more willing than most husbands realize. Just ask. It’s not at the forefront of their minds like it is at yours. If she doesn’t pick up subtle hints, just ask her, “Can we make love?”

4. Be decisive. A busy wife and mother can easily suffer from “decision fatigue.” Dads are often away at work and mom is the one at home to field a thousand requests. The last thing she wants is to have to be the one to make all the hard decisions. Involve her in the process but be the one who is willing to say yes or no, especially in those weighty matters.

All of this assumes you’re living out the basics of a faithful Christian life.

You should be praying for and with one another. You should be prioritizing weekly public worship and maintaining some form of regular family devotions.

If you aren't doing these fundamentals, you should make adjustments immediately.

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@Seth_Troutt Does it work if the gray is in the beard? And no hair on top? Asking for a friend.

[John Lovell | the Warrior Poet @johnlovell275]

@PeteHegseth and the @DeptofWar has just announced Scouting America is on notice....The Stronger Boy Way is a great guide of raising young men
@SecWar

[Brandon Scalf @brandonmscalf]

A Pastor who never prays for the people under his care should never preach to them.