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What is absolutely vital to understand about the use of psychiatry in family and criminal court is that it is so subjective and can be bent into any shape; that the same ‘mental health issues’ can be used to DEFEND your abuser as innocent, misunderstood, or needing support, at the exact same time as DISCREDITING you as dangerous, delusional, unreliable, and unstable. These ‘disorders’ can be used however the professional wants to use them, depending on how they see you. Not only is the so-called ‘diagnostic’ process completely subjective, but so is everything else surrounding it. This is why I fight so hard for complete reform.

I was reading a thread earlier about mothers who have lost their children either to long term Foster care, adoption or to their ex partner. Every single one said they don't know how to carry on. They don't want to wake to another day without them. They miss getting up with them in the morning, tucking them into bed at night and everything in between. Some have been on domestic abuse courses as that's how they've lost their children. Some are getting by because they've had another child so they have to. Others who have a child still in their care find it difficult as they miss the child or children they don't have. They don't know how to explain why they've been able to keep a sibling and not their other child. I cant help wonder to myself where do these people go for help and support. Especially when the child has been with them all this time. I think of some of the father's who have lost their children and shouldn't have. Where do they go? Surely we need to do something and there should be a service for this? Surely they should be support after court for them? I'm sure someone was running something not so long ago. But I can't remember who they were. I think this is so vitally important and all we see is desperation in these people. I'm afraid their will be more suicides. #child #parents #FamilyCourt #FamilyLaw

Domestic violence perpetrator manipulation of systems is a critical problem that undermines responses to family violence and deeply impacts adult and child survivors in many ways. Perpetrators manipulate systems to bolster their own power and abuse and to control adult and child survivors further. For example, they use false allegations of criminal behavior, parental alienation, and “failure to protect” to target survivors, their children, and the professionals involved with the family. Perpetrators’ successful manipulation of systems compounds, reinforces and legitimizes their power, increasing both the survivors’ sense of their own powerlessness and the perpetrator’s seeming omnipotence. Sadly, the perpetrators’ use of these systems is often successful: Adult survivors can lose their freedom, their children, and their physical and mental health. Harassment via repeated reporting and/or litigation can also deplete survivors’ finances in addition to wasting public resources. As a result, adult and child survivors often lose trust in the systems that are supposed to protect them. https://t.co/tiqRkZeSBH