In a relationship, there's no such thing as 'that's just the way I am'. when you truly love someone you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts & feelings – you adjust, grow & heal together.
i saw a quote that said “everyone loves you when you let everything slide, but the moment you start setting boundaries and holding people accountable, you become the one that’s difficult” and that’s real shit.