If you want a life that feels like yours, you have to get in touch with your inner madness. Become a rebel. Unapologetically you. Take the path nobody dares to walk. Read 700 page philosophy books. Work for a month straight. Build something from nothing. Then disappear for a week. Don't be rational. Don't be logical Don't be normal ever. Be rare. Be obsessive. Be exactly who you are. This one mindset shift can absolutely change everything.
I remember when I was partying constantly and all the people I was meeting seemed cool because I was drunk and on drugs 24/7 basically and you think that telling people personal stuff while inebriated accounts for intimacy but you'll always wake up feeling quite sad and disappointed - and well the current transits reminds me of that kind of things.
building something real requires time and vulnerability also means eventual rejection but still, it's so much better than these snippets of connections based on having fun together (you could also call that collectively running away from your traumas and feelings because you're not supposed to get so wasted all the time to enjoy life).
Neuroplasticity works faster under high emotional intensity. If you can resist a craving when it’s at its peak, you get a bigger rewiring effect. This is why the hardest moments matter most, they’re not setbacks, they’re high-voltage opportunities to change.
You really have to train your brain by immediately getting up to do the things you don’t want to do so it starts to believe that hard things don’t bother you