"if you're working through trauma, why are you trying to date?" you will learn the true depths of your trauma from interacting with others. that's when you can see what exactly has to be worked on. in isolation, no one is around to trigger you. so how will you truly know?
lingering on it does nothing for me. i’m mature enough to admit that there are certain things about people that i will never understand and it’s not my job to. moving on…
judging yourself every time you feel an emotion you don’t understand or when you feel it longer than you’d like, only keeps you in that uncomfortable state longer. feelings are information, figuring out what they’re really telling you is more effective than putting yourself down.