I did this for my employee once. I wanted him to know he was heard. Soon, my whole team was dancing in the rain together, making sure he knew he wasn’t alone. It’s a core memory for me.
💙 The girl in blue felt anxious and lay in the rain on the driveway. Her mother arrived, held her hand, and lay beside her until her anxiety subsided, showing love and support. 💙
“I got spanked, and I turned out fine” needs to be looked at deeper.
- Can you handle your emotions without having outbursts or meltdowns?
- What do your relationships look like?
- How do people close to you feel in your presence?
- Do your respect your body?
- Do you need substances to cope?
Fine can mean you exist in survival mode. Humans are meant to thrive. Abuse does not set up the foundation for us to thrive. It’s sets the foundation for shame, high defensiveness, and dysfunctional relationships.
I know I need to work up the courage and grace to forgive you, but still, after all this time, I cannot make it make sense in my head why you did the things you did to me