Social media has really glorified the idea that the grass is greener on the other side. It's an illusion. Put in the work and the grass will be greener where you are.
Trauma makes you see someone's lack of effort as an invitation to prove your worth and their lack of response as an invitation to try harder. Healing makes you see their lack of effort as their lack of interest in you and their lack of response as your lack of importance to them.