You will know you’re the scapegoat when you have a strong reaction to something hurtful done to you and the focus is on how you reacted vs. what caused you pain.
Dysfunctional families blame estrangement as the issue rather than all of the things that happened that led the person to become estranged to begin with.
you are not OBLIGATED to associate with your family just because they are family.
Some families are pure poison and that shit will kill you. If you let it.
If a family breaks up over someone exposing their abuse, that someone was holding generations of family pain. They can say they broke up the family, but what they broke was the cycle. That family was broken the moment they started hiding the abuse.
I've learnt from experience that a narcissist or any toxic person who has harmed you will create false stories about you, your experiences, and your character. They are doing this because, in order to be honest about who you are, they would have to be honest about what they've done 😉