Personally, I think the “eldest daughter” trope was hijacked by women who just so happen to be born first out of their siblings when in actuality…it stems from women who are the eldest and usually grew up in SINGLE parent households where they did have to be the 2nd mom and were tasked with overwhelming responsibility of cooking, cleaning, watching, bathing, and even being held accountable for everything their younger siblings did since elementary school.
Never having time to themselves. Never getting to do what they wanted because they had to think about their younger siblings. Being the authority figure for a parent that is barely there because they work a lot. Getting in trouble for not catering to their siblings.
It’s time we admit that’s where this stems from. Let’s not act like people don’t have this type of life. Being born first isn’t the issue, it’s the conditions that woman was born into that make it the issue and why they feel like they are surrogate mothers to their younger siblings.
Idk what this country will look like a year from now. But what I do know is I only have one life and I am going to live it. My ancestors grabbed whatever sweetness in life they could find. They had joy. They had glee. They had hope. And I wont cede mine. Im happy. Im gonna remain happy.
because of my nails, i can’t open soda cans very easily. so when i’m out by myself, i bee-line over to the nearest man and presumptuously hold out my can of coke and ask him to open it for me. not in a ‘damsel in distress’ way but more of a ‘all men are my personal servants’ way
Having NY feet is wild because I chose to stroll and clear my head, but I’m like power walking 🤷🏽♀️ like why is this my natural pace ?!?! Why am I in a rush ?!?! I have no where toooo beeeeee!!!
i get told i'm extremely beautiful multiple times a day every day by so many different kinds of people like clockwork so i have no choice but to believe im gorgeous from an objectively factual standpoint
Your apology doesn't absolve you of your wrong doings.
Nor does it automatically 'fix' the issue or help the person. They are entitled to feel however they feel long after you apologize if what you did affected them.
Sorry is simply recognizing you're wrong.
Late night vulnerable thought:
I used to think there was something wrong with me when a friendship wouldn’t last & then I realised there is something fundamentally wrong in how ppl treat friends these days. Ppl cut off each other for the most selfish reasons, communication -
Im not gonna lie, its no amount of gaslighting, "marriage can always end" verbaige that can get me to have a kid before i get married. Yes I know it can end with me being a single mother but damnnt we aint gonna start dat wey!!!