Kelly Anderson

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@pjewles @becka_thompson I can tell you, as a 100% Full Self-Driving Tesla user, that driverless cars are 1,000x safer than those with human drivers. I feel much safer with my car driving me than I do driving myself as it can see in all directions at all times, and I cannot.

[Jessica Rojas 🇺🇸💪 @VoicesUnheard]

Moms, we need to talk. 😒

I keep seeing videos of women complaining about motherhood, and I’m just going to say it:

Some of you aren’t going to like this.

Feminism didn’t just change womanhood. It helped destroy something essential about it.

Somewhere along the way, sacrifice became oppression.

Your children need too much from you?

They’re children. That’s what they do.

Your husband needs something from you?

You’re married. Get over it.

You don’t get to do exactly what you want every minute of every day.

Welcome to being an adult.

It is not all about you.

For decades, women have been told endlessly about what we deserve, what we're owed, and what we should never have to sacrifice.

Far less is said about what we owe the people we chose to love.

Now everything is:

My happiness.
My peace.
My boundaries.
My fulfillment.
My identity.

Me. Me. Me. Me. Me.

And I don't think this “Me-First Motherhood” culture appeared out of nowhere.

For decades, our culture and institutions have increasingly treated the traditional family, and especially motherhood in the home, as something women needed to be liberated from.

Mothers entered the workforce en masse. Two incomes increasingly became a necessity rather than a luxury. Children began spending more of their waking hours in institutional care and schools. Families paid more taxes while outsourcing more of the work families once did themselves.

And at the same time, we were sold an increasingly adversarial view of men and women:

Men vs. women.
Husbands vs. wives.
Career vs. motherhood.
Independence vs. family.
Personal fulfillment vs. sacrifice.

And who loses when the family becomes weaker?

We do.

Our children do.

Because now social media is filled with women publicly complaining that their children are exhausting. That they’re “overstimulated” by them. That they desperately “need space.” That motherhood took something away from them.

Having a difficult day is one thing.

Building an identity around resenting the ordinary demands of your children is another.

Imagine growing up hearing that.

Imagine knowing your mother sees you as a burden because being your mother requires something from her.

What does that do to a child?

What happens to a generation of kids who learn not to need too much because Mom is already “overstimulated”?

Who make themselves smaller so Mom can “protect her peace”?

Who grow up believing everybody’s individual happiness comes before responsibility to the people they love?

What are we teaching those children about love?

Love isn’t always convenient.

It isn’t always pretty.

It isn’t always fulfilling.

Sometimes love requires you to get over yourself.

Motherhood requires something from you.

Marriage requires something from you.

Being an adult requires something from you.

Sometimes you come second.

We’ve become so obsessed with making sure women don’t “lose themselves” in motherhood that we never stopped to ask whether children are losing their mothers in the process.

Not physically.

Emotionally.

Because while Mom is busy protecting her peace, finding herself, choosing herself, prioritizing herself, and telling the internet how exhausting her children are…

Those kids are learning:

Don’t need too much from Mom.
Don’t bother Mom.
Don’t become another burden.

And then those children become adults.

What kind of husbands and wives will they become?

What kind of mothers and fathers?

What happens when an entire generation learns that love means prioritizing yourself until someone else's needs become inconvenient?

Maybe instead of serving a culture that continually pulls families apart, we start building our families back up.

We spend an awful lot of time talking about what motherhood costs women.

Maybe it’s time we start asking:

What is “Me-First Motherhood” costing our children?

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@PicturesFoIder I honestly don’t understand why people always want the windows closed. Is it a fear of seeing the world below you, which would maybe make sense for those who are afraid of heights or man-made flying objects? I always open as many windows as I can so I can see everything

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@UnrulyJulie15 @JackPosobiec I haven’t used shampoo for years, and my hair has never been softer or shinier than it is now. I rinse it thoroughly and apply a small amount of conditioner to the ends to keep them healthy but don’t use anything else, including gels, mousse, etc.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@HazelAppleyard_ Isn’t the main purpose of having sex to procreate, therefore the genitalia of a partner precisely does matter?

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@HeidiBriones Read every single ingredient label and avoid anything that is overly processed (artificial and natural flavors, coloring, chemical preservatives, etc.)

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@ctlyle1 @Joschmo1326 @Delta Same thing at MCO. My husband and I rented a car to drive 24+ hours back to Minneapolis

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@BrianLaManna_ A Tesla, obviously.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@ImWatson91 This song really helps when smiling is the last thing you want to do. You got this 💯

https://t.co/0I5gd42tlC

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@authenticTERF CANCER AND CAPRICORN, BABY! ❤️

[Brett Winton @wintonARK]

technically the Cybertruck improved the 911's 0-60 time

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@DaveEDanna They’re amazing! The most nutritiously dense food you can eat.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@DaveEDanna Overly processed foods.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@DaveEDanna My mother made her maiden name her middle name, which I believe was common practice in the Midwest in the 80s. I chose to keep my middle name because I love that it keeps a little piece of my grandmother alive. I think it’s really up to the wife to decide what makes her happy!

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@libsoftiktok What is this outfit? Do teachers not have to dress or act professionally anymore? Good grief.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@GrageDustin Agreed 💯… but who have you seen in the younger generations who can actually make positive and impactful change? I haven’t seen the drive in the younger generations that the older generations had, and it’s very troubling.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@kelly_cadigan Self reflection is the best way to move forward and improve. Keep doing it!

[K @authenticWMN]

Brand new

I hear you got a brand new house?
Grifted like a pro
But Kelly, there are things about
your crotch you need to know
Empty rooms will soon be filled
with picture frames and plants,
but this transition cannot change
what’s happened in your pants

Did you scrutinise the deeds
Before you were committed?
Definitely no black mold
infestation omitted?
Damp within the walls will be
a never ending chore
Ventilation is a must
to keep away the spore

I’m pleased to say, my walls are dry
Unless of course they’re not
Women have another ‘home’
and this one cannot rot
Housekeeping around the clock
Drinkable tap water
Thermostat auto-adjusts
for guests who like it hotter

Beautiful front entrance
which is never left ajar
The lobby doubles as a lounge
and has a built in bar
Unexpected visitors
enjoy a warm reception
Prerequisite for entry
is discussing contraception

But even when the gardener
forgets his secateurs
the peonies bloom anyway –
their perfume still allures
Mother nature doesn’t miss
Perfect every time
Assistance not required to
maintain this house of mine

Get yourself to Habitat
and choose a pretty lamp
But what about your second home –
the one with all the damp?
Invest in double glazing
Get some draft excluders too
And artificial flowers is the
best that you can do.

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

@pearlythingz Raising children

[Kelly Anderson @iam__isaid]

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