Living life one day, one challenge and one podcast at a time ๐ #legacy Disclaimer: All expressed ruminations as a result of overthinking are entirely my own๐
@NarcissistBox He used to get annoyed. I distinctly remember while I was recovering after major surgery he complained bitterly about electricity cost. I had used the heater to keep the room warm. Mind you, it was the coldest month of the year and I was in significant pain.
**5. Gifts From People Who Don't Respect You**
That hideous vase your mother-in-law gave you.
The book from your ex you felt obligated to keep.
The framed photo from a friend who betrayed you.
Keeping gifts from people who don't honor you means you're honoring them more than yourself.
Your space should be a sanctuary, not a museum of obligation.
If it doesn't spark respect for yourself, it goes.
@_ThePugFather For so many people, this would absolutely feel like business class. I hope that guy will remember and cherish that feeling for a very long time to come.
particular retailerโs system had been offline since yesterday. Thatโs a minimum of two daysโ worth of credit sales down the drain on the busiest weekend of the month. The store employees are not sure when it will be fixed and the call centre is not aware of the issue.
Iโve noticed subtle signals of degradation of some our large retailers and this truly is a time for smaller businesses to jump right in there and offer impeccable customer service, store credit facilities and easily accessible outlets that donโt require payment for parking.
It also seems like technology tends to cripple them quite badly with no quick turnaround e.g. a store I wanted to purchase from today has been offline the entire day since this morning. In fact, I overheard a customer in a different store saying that that
This topic is having me reflect again on how important it is to not commoditise our skills and talents. Thereโs value in taking time to execute or craft certain things thoughtfully and authentically. Use AI sparingly and strategically but donโt lose who you are when creating.
โIโll be 10 min late sorry!!!โ
-ashamed
-fragile
-unreliable
โA thousand apologies. The relentless slog of time has overtaken my faculties.โ
-powerful
-commanding
-honest
Habits I noticed in women who have genuinely healed
1. They stopped explaining themselves to people who had already decided who they were. They understood that clarity is not owed to everyone. Some people are not asking questions. They are building cases.
2. They have one standard they do not negotiate on. Not a list of rules. One deep knowing of what they will not accept. And that one knowing removes the exhausting daily decision of where their line is.
3. They feel the grief and they name it out loud to themselves. "I am sad today." "I am scared today." That one sentence creates just enough distance from the feeling to keep it from becoming their entire identity
4. They stopped trying to heal in the same environment that wounded them. They changed the inputs. The people. The conversations. The content they consumed. They understood that you cannot think your way out of a room you have never physically left.
5. They allowed the anger. They did not perform forgiveness before they had processed the rage. They let the anger do its sacred work of showing them what they would never allow again.