she really said, “you aren’t the nigga that i thought you were. just a boy, will address you as such, and a boy could never be enough. i let myself down. i let myself trust” THE MFN PENNNNNNNNNN 🥺
Woman are reciprocators. Not initiators. You lead, she follow. You put in effort, she returns it. You make her feel good, she mirror it. That's the only
Way it works.
A woman working 40+ hrs a week, paying for her own hair, nails, rent, car, food, gas, handling everything by herself, is not going to be the soft, feminine woman you expect her to be. Andno, she can't bring you peace when she's in survival mode.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.
To all my girls chasing a new chapter, be gentle with yourself. What’s meant for you will always find you, so trust the process and give yourself grace. You’ve got this! ♥️
Girl to girl: It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that
Out of respect PLEASEEEE do not tell me about people that I am no longer in contact with. I do not care about them, what they do is none of my business. I have my own life and I am very happy with where I am.
When Lauryn Hill said “it could all be so simple”she wasn't lying. Reciprocity between two people who want something to work is so simple. It's as easy as breathing.