Fellas!!! let's normalize telling women " i am no longer interested because the experience you provide makes me uncomfortable and doesn't align with my preferences and high frequency."
Black masculine identity as currently performed was largely designed by people who needed Black men to be physically useful and intellectually dormant. The community that internalized that design now enforces it socially on the men who refused it.
The Black intellectual man is the most misread person in his own community. Too Black for white spaces. Too articulate for street credibility. Too thoughtful for the masculine archetype. He exists in a gap that nobody built infrastructure for and navigates it mostly alone.
HaHa Davis speaks on swinging with his girlfriend
“I would never allow that to happen again. You can't get that image out your head. He was doing it so good I said, 'I know she don't want this after that.' He in there dog walking her. In full control of your old lady. I damn near called the police. I thought he was an intruder. I was curled up in the bed for 3 days straight. I never got over the pain. He swung a little harder than me.”
(Via Club Shay Shay)
The Blueprint 3 is Jay Z adjusting to a post Graduation world of hip hop. It wasn’t just him though.
From like 2007-2011, all major labels were pushing their rap artists to go towards that crossover style.
You can see it in Tha Carter III, Thank Me Later, Lasers, Recovery… etc