You cannot spend years breaking a child's spirit and then expect a few words in adulthood to repair what took years to destroy. You cannot teach a child to fear your footsteps, your voice, your moods, and your anger, then expect them to see you as a source of comfort later in life.
Hey. I need you to keep believing in your capacity to change. You are not obligated to keep performing the version of yourself that fear taught you to become.
I want to get on here and talk about love so much!
But you will never feel loved until you remove the people in your life that don’t love you and show up for you.
You will focus on the lack of love until it kills you inside, if you don’t remove the people who don’t love you!
After giving birth, a woman's internal wounds take six months to heal, 12 months for physical recovery, two years for hormonal balance, and up to five years to rediscover her identity. Relationships frequently fail during this time due to a lack of understanding. Be kind and patient with new mothers; they are facing more challenges than it appears.
Unless a man sits you down and tells you straight up " I'm ready to be in a committed relationship, I want you to be my girlfriend." And you agree,then don't assume that you are. It doesn't matter what he does for you,how much you've given him or what you guys do together
I’ve been speaking up about my feelings more and I love that for me I used to hold things in and not hold people accountable for how they treat me and make me feel but now I make mfs just as uncomfortable as they made me by expressing to them what they did people hate that
People will use you & use you & use you & use you until you finally put a stop to it & then they’ll say you’ve never done nothing for them
Honestly, I think my childhood trauma came from feeling emotionally distant from my own family. I learned very early to stay quiet about my feelings because whenever I needed comfort or understanding, I felt unheard. So instead of expressing my pain, I started pretending I was okay.
I became someone who cried alone, healed alone, and carried heavy emotions silently. Maybe that’s why I love people so deeply now, because I know how painful it feels to not feel emotionally understood by the people who were supposed to make you feel safe.
And the saddest part is, those family wounds stay with you. They make you overthink, fear being unwanted, and get attached to small acts of kindness because deep down, all you ever wanted was genuine love and emotional safety.
Once you start treating yourself with so much self love and small wins it sets the standard to what you allow in your life. Everything shifts when you put yourself first.