“I've done everything possible to fight corruption. What else can I do? In my opinion, there are only 2 options—either to join the system & fully participate in the looting, or say enough is enough. I've chosen the latter & I am leaving.”—35y.o. Mbale MP Wilfred Kajeke. 14/7/2009
Even when a lion has taken months without a successful hunt and hunger has severely drained its strength to almost zero; it cannot choose to chew a ripe mango or chew grass. Have limits below which you can never go just because you want to survive. Have character. Be noble.
10 Lessons from the book “The Courage to be Disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga:
1. Never compare yourself to others:
Life isn’t a competition, and if you see it as such, you’ll take other people’s successes as your defeat, and vice versa. Try not to spend so much time on social media.
2. Freedom is being okay if people dislike you:
Humans wired to thrive in communities so the fear of disapproval makes people freeze inside. Being okay with people not liking us is freedom.
3. All problems are Interpersonal Relationship Problems:
People are afraid of being judged by others. If there were nobody else in the world, our problems as we know them wouldn’t exist. All our problems have the touch of other people in some way or the other.
4. Don’t live to satisfy others:
Get rid of the need to please others. Stay true to yourself. Live your life in complete freedom and according to your own principles. Always remember that what other people think of you is none of your business.
5. Stop using trauma as an excuse:
Discard the victim mentality. Our past experiences – including traumas – affect us not by the events themselves, but by the meanings, we attach to them.
6. Embrace individuality:
Accept and celebrate your unique self. Overcome the burden of social expectations. Lifestyle is not something given, but something chosen. Be authentically You.
7. You’re not actually inferior:
Don’t use your inferiority complex to give up on things, rationalize self-pity, and resolve to be helpless. Don’t use it as an excuse not to do things; “I don’t have a degree, so I can’t succeed.”
8. Focus on your own tasks:
When people don’t like us, that is their problem. Before helping others, you have to help yourself, otherwise, you will end up resenting the very people you’re trying to help.
9. Put yourself on the same level as others:
Never put yourself above or below anyone. Instead of building hierarchical relationships, build horizontal ones that put you both on the same level as each other. If someone hasn’t done an adequate enough job, let them know your expectations without passing judgment.
10. You can change your life, if you want to:
If you believe that the past determined your present and therefore your future, then you’ve already decided on your future. Changing your lifestyle and reaching for your dreams opens you up to failure, rejection, and criticism.
I never force anyone to choose me. If you think you can find something better elsewhere, then go ahead. Am not holding you back. Life is too short to hang onto someone who’s not sure they want to stay.
I belive in freedom; in the truth of feelings. If you must stay, let it be because your heart tells you that this is where you belong not because I begged you to. I want to be a choice not a default option.
I deserve someone who sees my value. One who understand what I bring to their life. I want someone who stays because they cannot imagine life without me. The door is always open. You are free to leave any time.
So if you think your happiness lies elsewhere, I won’t stand in your way and in the meantime, I will keep going. I will continue to build my own life, to be happy on my own because my happiness doesn’t depend on your presence but on my own ability to blossom. ~Unknown
Condom use in Uganda has declined significantly, the Annual Joint AIDS Review Report indicates. This year, only 141 million condoms have been used from 200 million last year. Distribution was short by 36% of the expected 328 million condoms. New HIV infections remain high. #NTVNews
Don't tell them your Likes and Dislikes. Just SHOW them. They're adults. When they come recruiting new members to their circus, walk away from the drama. Don't verbalize who you are. Let them notice. If they like to stay in your circle, they'll adjust. If they don't, let them go.
Yesterday I hosted the Team preparing for the Ekula sustainable Tourism Awards scheduled for later this. Montth where I will be recognised for the promotion of Tourism and the environment