Jacob Aliet

Studying entropy

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@ule_musee @MikeSonko Sonko has an image to keep?

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@JustIvyAfrica You don't have a passion. Thats why you have an issue with it. A passion can never become a job and eating, which 99% of humans love, cannot be a passion. You should have said you love cooking. Not eating, which is a biological need, not a skill.

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16. You must fortify yourself and have the right mindset to navigate relationships.

Or you will meet your untimely demise.

Get your copy UNPLUGGED and dispense with the comforting lies and embrace the cold hard truths. END

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15..., if you don't vet them well, your wife, are seeking to extract value from you.

Once you're unable to deliver value, the relationship is dissolved.

This may not sound fair but it is what it is. Kindness does not always beget kindness in this world.

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14. You must understand that in this life, as a man, nobody is coming to save you.

And people lose jobs every day. Keep something for a rainy day.

Have a side hustle and learn to make your own money. Most people you will interact with, your employers, and..

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13. Nobody can care for you as much as you can care for yourself.

And if you don't care for yourself if you abandon yourself and give away everything you have, why should someone else do that?

You're not a child.

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12. That's why most married women spend money frivolously and frown on frugality and prudence.

Let them call you stingy, but always put yourself first. Don't fall for the shaming tactics. Those who think you are selfish can suck it.

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11. Sacrificing all you have for her so that you can get her approval, acceptance, or absolution will not redeem you from your inadequacies or strategic errors.

As a matter of fact, most wives are hoping you can save them. In fact, they feel their future is your problem.

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10. Which brings me to today's post.

Guys, your future is your business. Not your wifes. Neglecting it and thinking your "generosity" today can make up for that act of negligence is a mistake.

Your wife is not your savior.

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10... and he saw her get kissed at the parking lot.

Heartbroken, he left his Nairobi house and went back to his mother in the village, claiming he was down but not out and would bounce back.

But things did not go that way. He got depressed and died shortly afterwards.

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9. According to him, once he lost his job, his wife, who had a well-paying job, decided to date other men as the man took care of their kids, not knowing what a man's role ought to be.

His last straw was when one of the men she was having an affair with brought her home one day

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8. A case in point is the recent viral case of the man who had allegedly lost his job after building a house for his in-laws and educating his wife's siblings.

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7....... But they will point and sputter about the injustice.

So, should you sacrifice everything for your wife, expecting commitment and loyalty in return?

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6. Men will die for freedom, for democracy, for independence, for honour. What about women? Even when the Taliban is discriminating against women, how many women are willing to take up arms and go to Afghanistan to die for fellow women? Zero.

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5. Most women are very loyal. To themselves. And their children.

Gentlemen, always remember that survival imperatives will always trump moral imperatives. This is why women are moral relativists par excellence.

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4. ..... and commitment in return for this complete surrender.

These acts of absolute sacrifice often end up in disappointment.

The women they seek this redemption from are often themselves traumatized, or wounded and are operating from scarcity.

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3. They think their spouses can love them like their mothers. They think the women can be loyal to them after the sacrifices.

They abandon themselves, keep nothing for themselves and give everything they have to their wives, hoping to gain wholesomeness....

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2. Many men approach relationships with the same mindset.

Scarred by father wounds, low self-esteem, abandonment issues or suffering the trauma of separation or lack, many men go into their marriages seeking validation or to plug a hole of emptiness in their souls.

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1. STOP SEEKING REDEMPTION FROM WOMEN
The World Does Not Owe You Understanding. Or kindness.

You know, in the Old Testament, people offered sacrifice as a means of atonement and to receive blessings from God. It was a transaction that was meant to give men benediction.

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Guys who cant soothe themselves have to resort to alcohol and drugs to numb their feelings of pain and helplessness, and therein is their path to perdition. Never abandon yourself guys. You are all you have.
Get your copy of UNPLUGGED from @NuriaBooks and fortify yourself.