i agree that love shouldn't be a constant source of pain, but i also think we need to stop teaching people that real love only feels good.
sometimes, the person who loves you will disappoint you, misunderstand you, or fail you in ways they never intended. the difference is what happens afterward.
do they take accountability and make changes, or do they keep hurting you and call it love?
don't leave someone who is willing to grow with you just because the relationship isn't perfect.
but never stay with someone who keeps breaking you and expects your love to put the pieces back together.
To my young girls, love is not supposed to hurt. Stop thinking you have to go through hell with somebody to prove y’all are meant to be. Love comes with challenges, but constant pain, disrespect, and heartbreak shouldn’t be one of them. Never confuse suffering with love. ❤️ Until you experience real love, you will never understand.
If you only knew how far a man would go for a woman he genuinely wants, you’d be disgusted with yourself for all the begging, compromising, and excuses you made just to get the bare minimum. 😭
I was the girl who stayed through the no job, no money, no gifts, no dates and the times when he had nothing to offer but himself. I could have left. I could have chosen an easier kind of love, but I stayed because I believed in him, believed in us and believed that one day things would get better. I never needed him to have everything figured out. I just wanted to build something meaningful together. I wanted my loyalty to mean something, to know that when life finally got better for him, he would remember the girl who stood beside him when it didn’t. Maybe that’s what hurts the most. I wasn’t asking for a perfect man or a perfect life. I was willing to grow with him, struggle with him and love him through seasons when we had very little. I just never imagined that after giving so much of my heart, I would be the one left trying to put it back together. I didn’t leave when he had nothing. I stayed because I believed in what we could become. And it breaks my heart that the love I was willing to build from the ground up still ended up destroying me.
Some men really think every woman expects five-star dates and a millionaire budget. 😂 Sir, some of us just want INITIATIVE, EFFORT, and a man who can make a $20 date feel special! A picnic, ice cream, bowling, or a scenic drive. We don’t need you rich, we need you to TRY! Some of y’all aren’t broke in the wallet, you’re broke in initiative! 😭💅🏽
Situationships are NOT for women like me. 😭 You not finna call me baby, sleep in… my bed, act like my man, then tell me we just vibing. VIBE YOUR CONFUSED ASS SOMEWHERE ELSE. 🗣️
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I want to fall in love again. I pray the next time it’s with the person God created just for me. I genuinely don’t have the heart to endure another disappointment. Being constantly let down changes you in ways I can’t explain. I never want to experience that feeling again.
Staying with a cheater can drive you mad.
They cheated. You stayed because you trusted their promise that they would never do it again.
Then your brain starts screaming at you.
You trusted them before, when you had no idea they were a cheater. And now you're trusting them, fully knowing what they're capable of?
Your heart whispers, There is still hope. Love can fix this.
Your brain fights back. If love was present, why did they cheat on you?And so the battle continues.
Your heart keeps searching for reasons to stay. Your brain keeps reminding you of the reasons you should have left.
You want to believe them. You remember how much you believed them before.
You want to feel safe. Your mind keeps reminding you that the person you're seeking safety from is the very person making you feel unsafe.
To stay with a cheater is to fight with your own mind over a betrayal you never committed.
It's exhausting. It's tormenting. And it feels like you're losing your mind.
Because every time your heart tries to trust again, your brain remembers what trusting them cost you.
I don’t want an apology. I want you to experience the exact situation you put me through so you can understand how it feels to be on the receiving end of your own actions. I wonder if you would still think it was okay if you were the one losing sleep, questioning your worth, overthinking everything and trying to heal from something you never deserved. It’s easy to dismiss someone’s pain when you’re not the one carrying it. It’s easy to say “I’m sorry” when you don’t have to live with the consequences of what you did. I don’t want revenge. I just wish you could understand the weight of the pain you made me carry.