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[mine @jasminejsman]

2023 reads 📚🤓:

[Maira @maira4yo]

maturing is realizing none of us are easy to be with. It's about who's willing to stay committed to understanding you and actually wants to grow with you

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

A psychologist watched thousands of couples argue for 40 years. The ones who stayed together and the ones who divorced fought just as much. How often you fight barely predicts anything. The clearest warning sign is quieter: one partner rolling their eyes at the other.

His name is John Gottman. He wired couples up to heart monitors, filmed them fighting, then waited years to see who broke up.

The couples who lasted shared one habit. For every cold moment in a fight, a snap, a jab, a nasty look, they had about five warm ones. A joke, a hand on the knee, a quiet "okay, fair." When they were getting along, the warm stuff outweighed the cold by far more. The couples heading for a split were running close to even, more digs than make-ups. The warmth around the fight is what held them together.

The worst sign of all is contempt. That word covers eye-rolling, sarcasm, mocking how your partner talks, treating them like they are stupid or beneath you. Gottman could watch a couple fight for fifteen minutes and guess who would divorce with about 90% accuracy, mostly by counting moments like that. Plain old anger barely registered. Some of the couples who yelled the loudest turned out to be the happiest, as long as they were kind to each other the rest of the time.

There is also a physical reason the calm conversation he wants is nearly impossible in the heat of a fight. When your heart races past about 100 beats a minute, your body drops into survival mode, and the part of your brain that listens and feels for someone else goes quiet. Gottman called it flooding. Your body needs a full twenty minutes to settle, and only if you stop replaying the fight in your head. Loving someone does not switch off the adrenaline.

Most of what couples fight about never gets fixed anyway. Around 69% of it comes from the basic ways two people differ, in personality and in what they want out of life, and that does not change. Happy couples have the same three or four arguments for thirty years. They just stop trying to win and learn to argue without cutting each other down.

So the line in the tweet has it backwards. A couple that never fights is often the one quietly falling apart. Usually it means one person stopped speaking up, and the warmth drained away while the room stayed calm.

[Ｗ 𝗜 𝗦 𝗘 𝗖 𝗢 𝗡 𝗡 𝗘 𝗖 𝗧 𝗢 𝗥 ™ 💬 @wiseconnector]

Get ready!

[mine @jasminejsman]

please update your policy to allowing customers to cancel their orders BEFORE getting a rider. giving 5-10secs timer to decide whether we'd like to cancel, is ridiculous.

& for those yang dah dapat rider but cancelled should get a penalty. @GrabMY

[𝘀𝗼𝗳𝗲𝗮 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 @goodlucksofea]

Perempuan kalau tak disibukkan dengan ilmu, akan disibukkan dengan perasaannya.

I can’t remember who told me this, but thank you so much.

[Joanna Bepeh @joanna_bepeh]

I started watching this Netflix series called “2 Broke Girls” and I realized something deeper than the comedy…

These two girls work at the same place but have two completely different mindsets.

The blonde one grew up wealthy and somehow became BROKE. But even while broke:
- She’s still positive and always looks on the bright side of things
– She’s business-minded and
– Sees opportunities in things

While the other one grew up poor and it shows too. She has a negative view of life, a victim mentality and believes that she’s destined to fail.

And something hit me while I was watching one of the episodes…
Your background really shapes who you are as a person; how you think, how you view the world and even how you respond to opportunities.

Rich kids are taught how to think about money, business and growth. While poor kids are taught how to survive, manage struggle and “manage their expectations.”

That difference is LOUD.

This is why self-development is so important. Because sometimes it’s not that you’re not lazy, you’re just acting based on what you’re used to and from the beliefs your background instilled in you 🤷🏾‍♀️

Sometimes, you need a whole new mindset + environment not just setting new goals.

Because even though you set new goals as long as your mindset stays the same, guess what? Tomorrow the loop will repeat itself

[ᴇᴍᴍ_ʙᴜᴅᴅʏ @emm_buddy]

Normalise saying "Astagfirullahi wa atubu ilaihi" the moment you feel jealous, get evil thoughts, feel disappointed and hurt. Trust me, all the negativity will flee and you will feel normal and Allah will become happy with you.

[۟ @twitmarhaen]

Jaya Grocer = premium
Village Grocer = very premium
Giant = mass
AEON = middle
NSK = “borong”, parking selalu penuh.

Malaysia ni unik, ada orang sanggup bayar mahal sebab nak suasana, ada orang prefer harga.

[mine @jasminejsman]

point proven in the replies 😅

[Cik Yam (✿☉｡☉) @mrymIsmaill]

"perempuan ambik degree untuk benchmark hantaran je"

Im tellin you they think its always about them.

[Wan Afiq @wanmafiq]

Ada kawan i ajar kalau nak doa minta rezeki lebih, cakap sekali untuk apa rezeki tu. Untuk tolong family ke untuk tolong umat Islam ke. Takpun doa je nak apa apa sebab nak sekian sekian, mesti Allah makbulkan. Then aku try la tiap kali nak pindah kerja, 7 tahun 7 company weh 😂🤣

[Imaduddin @monqiyy]

Bro has everything even built an app for her. Her fumble needs to be studied

[Jeffrey Elham | REN 58958 @Jeffrey_Elham]

Orang ramai cari rumah. Tapi hanya yang bijak cari lokasi yang jarang. Bukan viral, tapi bernilai. Bukan murah, tapi berbaloi.

Thread ini tentang satu kawasan
elit yang jarang disebut:

Pelindung Heights, Teluk Cempedak.

[𝓵𝓲𝓵𝔂 @lailyzmri]

⚠️ DO NOT EVER get in a Grab with this driver.
I had the most disgusting, terrifying ride of my life. He talked openly about sex and made me feel so unsafe. I recorded part of it. Help me make sure no one else becomes his next victim. @GrabMY I want action. Here's what happened:

[Bbie. @twtbiy]

Yuki macam cakap "mira pukul."

Yuki selalu jadi penyelamat cik epal.

[not pel @pelisahh]

his colour is not gold!!! it's kepam!

[Se-konyong🇵🇸 @AmeeRamly]

Kecoh kat thread brand jual preloved yg agak attitude. Bengang jugak aku baca the way dia replied to customer.

[Ummi lala! @UmmeeIshaq]

I will marry a super calm gentleman who's insanely obsessed with me ان شاءالله. Life is too short to spend it with a guy who acts nonchalant & mean.

[mhmmdhsm @mhmmdhsm]

Mak selalu pesan ni. Tapi tetap terjadi juga sampai terpaksa rahsiakan dari mak. Sedih dan pendam seorang diri. Sakit 🥹

Hanya penah lalui je faham benda ni

[Dimas @apoteler]

They asked me: "how did you persuade your child to read instead of playing with smart devices?"

I said: "Children don't hear us. They imitate us"