@CowderyEsther@BrianAtlas The only way you're gonna get a nice guy to show you your so-called " their dark side" is through chaos and drama,nothing else.
You can literally feel in your soul when it’s TIME .. time to move on from people, time to make a change in your life, time to get rid of unhealthy habits, time to want MORE for yourself. At some point you’ll just know..
you need a dangerous amount of confidence to escape an ordinary life cos the person who becomes successful has to believe something that everyone else doubts.
So many people apologize just to kill the tension in the moment, not because they actually want to fix anything. That's why the same issues keep repeating.
Daily reminder to pay your mamafua and casual workers on time. I hate this, “si ni mia tatu tu, mbona anashinda amenipigia” mentality. 500 bob to you equals clean clothes. For her it’s three meals for her family. Usikuwe mtu bladifackin.
Major cheat code for life: Always assume things will work out, then do the work to make it true. It’s a mindset of active optimism. Earned faith. It creates a quiet confidence that allows you to tolerate the uncertainty of life better than anything else.
You should study what makes you defensive. The topic you avoid, the joke that irritates you, the question that feels insulting, the feedback you instantly reject. Defensiveness is usually the guard dog sitting in front of a weakness you have not trained yourself to face.