i believe some people do owe you. i believe in karmic debt. and i believe anyone who has done you wrong after you’ve fed them well is indebted to you. scales are meant to be balanced.
People have learned a few psychological buzzwords on social media,like "gaslighting," "narcissist," "boundaries," and "toxic", and now they use them to run away from normal human conflict. Sometimes your partner isn't a "toxic narcissist violating your boundaries"; sometimes they are just annoyed, having a bad day, and you are actually the one who was wrong. We have weaponized therapy language to ensure we never have to apologize or compromise.