I was watching this Kylian Mbappe documentary on the BBC and Arsene Wenger said something that stayed with me.
He said: “(To succeed) you first have to think I belong to this world”.
As simple as those words are, it’s the reason many people fail at anything they do. They don’t see themselves good enough. They don’t see themselves capable. They don’t deem themselves worthy or deserving of the opportunities they have.
He concluded that statement with “(you must think)it’s natural of me to express my talent and make a difference.”
Imagine living everyday like that, going into the world with the full knowledge that you have a place in it, and everything you do to show yourself, and your qualities to the world is natural and you’re expressing yourself to make a difference.
I think that’s powerful.
I always recommend watching, listening to, and reading the stories of elite athletes. There’s always a difference.
It’s talent, it’s strength, it’s some bit of luck, it’s strategy, it’s the environment.
No matter how good you may be, if you don’t have parents or coaches who see that talent early, and carefully make important decisions for you, you’ll not become as big as your promise foretells.
It’s why I’ll always respect Victor Osimhen and his story. Becoming what he became almost against all odds isn’t what many do, as we can see from the many footballers who never lived up to their levels.
Each time I watch sportsmen, elite sportsmen and the roles coaching and their parents play in what they become, I’m convinced any Nigerian footballer born in Nigeria who makes it big on a global scale is an outlier.
And it’s mentality. Some people can’t hear can’t.
I love creating music because all it takes is a loop to express an emotion that you might have long walked away from.
Creating this one felt like finding an old photograph I had taken and forgotten about. Raw, unrefined, and painfully beautiful💐
My favorite line from Atomic Habits has been living in my head rent-free:
“It doesn’t make sense to continue wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don’t want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.”
Any girl that has dated me to include my current girlfriend knows not to pull the “don’t you trust me?” bullshit. Because I do the opposite of what one might think.
I will assertively tell her “fuck no. I absolutely do not fucking trust you because you aren’t doing trustworthy behaviors. A trustworthy person doesn’t want to go off and do shit that’s suspicious by any standard and then say “well don’t you trust me…”. That’s the exact thing that liars do.”
And that “blows things up” which is exactly what I want. And then there is usually a “fight” where she goes from trying to blame the lack of trust on me to trying to justify herself and prove that she is trustworthy.
And then I have her exactly where I want her; where we can talk about how trustworthy behaviors breed trust, and how the responsibility lies on the person doing something risky or suspicious to provide transparency, to put controls in place, and take extra steps to make their companions comfortable.
And then that is the last time she will ever pull the “don’t you trust me you’re just insecure” psy op.
Leadership means being about 3-5 chess moves ahead bro.
On a normal day, when I was in the world, this was exactly how I handled women.
Whenever I wanted to meet new women, I would set aside about a week to approach different girls throughout that period. I could decide to approach nine or ten of them. Then I would start texting them, and anyone who didn't give me the vibe I wanted immediately would be eliminated. I used an elimination process to narrow the list down to about three or four.
There was never a point when I had only one girl in my life. I always had alternatives and options. If I asked you to come over and you hesitated, I would simply call someone else. I was never heartbroken. If any of them decided to break up with me, I would just promote one of the other girls to her spot.
I never took anything involving women too seriously, and I always had different top-tier women at my beck and call. You won't cook? No problem. I would call another girl right in front of you, and she would come and cook.
This approach definitely had its downsides, but one thing was certain: I was the one in total control. I was never subjected to the whims and caprices of women.
As a man, the first thing you must eliminate is a scarcity mindset. No woman is worth allowing to treat you like a piece of trash. If she is not feeling you, keep it moving. Talk to someone else. You will eventually find what you are looking for.
I still live by this code to this day. If I text you and you don't respond, I won't bother you again. I have different women complaining that I don't give them enough attention, so there's no reason for me to be chasing someone who isn't interested.
This is how I’ve been eating for the past 4 months
- I don’t snack like that asides Greek yogurt and granola, whole foods mostly
- I don’t take alcohol (I smoke weed occasionally)
- Only supplement I use is creatine
- I eat about 6-7 eggs a day