Yeah, don’t worry about her past she says, she’s not settling for you at all LOL. The “No’s”(had hotter hookups than my significant other) is winning. And some of the “Yes’s” are probably self-delusional, lying out of guilt.
I keep hearing, mostly from women, that purity culture is the ultimate evil and that it’s so pervasive but if that was true, 95% of women wouldn’t have a body count before marriage and 25% of American women wouldn’t have at least one abortion.
We do not live in a culture that is ashamed of fornication and sexual immorality. Fornication has been the norm for decades now. Any complaints about the harms of so called “purity culture” are misplaced and is often used as the boogeyman for the decay of our culture when the true boogeyman is that premarital sex is 100% acceptable in modern American culture.
This is the typical church experience in the west whenever dating/marriage dynamics are discussed by a pastor; men are bad and need to do better, women are beautiful angels and aren’t responsible for anything.
How this affects the psyche of men and women afterwards:
1. The women leave the sermon feeling self righteous and resentful about how men aren’t measuring up. They place demands on men that are not only unrealistic but unfounded while never considering that they, as women, may be the ones at fault in any way.
2. The men leave the sermon feeling demoralized and guilty about things they didn’t even do, or they realize that nothing they do will ever be good enough if this is the mindset that is being fed to women, and so they check out from even trying.
Western churches need to change RADICALLY and stop being so enslaved to women or we are on our way to full cultural death. This isn’t helping neither men nor women.
@theralkia I wasn’t super fond of London or Bali but had crappy company. I’d give them another shot. I did not like Bangkok, didn’t get anywhere else in Thailand. Nice & Singapore were paradises
Then they either shape up or we put them in jail forever.
Take this freak for example: you already know how he behaved in a public school.
Let’s remove irredeemably malfunctioning pollutants from the school, from the public streets, and from the gene pool.
Good riddance.