You have to choose yourself before you can ever choose anyone else. Love conquers all, but you have to know yourself, take care of yourself, and love yourself before you can fully give someone all of you.
It’s been so eye opening how much I used to give because I wanted to please others & make sure they were good. I had little to no boundaries & it showed. Now I’ve set healthy boundaries & it’s made such a huge difference with my mental, emotional, & physical state.