@CartlandDavid Wow,this resonates so much with me, since having 3 COVID jabs I have gone from running / gym 3 times a week to bring unable to exercise as limbs 'puff up,' I get sent to Aand E and bloods show elevated d dimers each time , but no clot when scanned, GP fobs me off every time!
"A new study is the first to document the real-time connection between phone use & the amount of speech directed at infants. Even short phone use episodes are associated with a notable decrease in the speech infants hear from their mothers." https://t.co/gSZI5AmmEB
"Being a dad isn't about being perfect, it's about being present."
I hear it from so many dads: that pressure to be the perfect provider, the perfect partner, the perfect role model. But here’s the thing—your kids don’t need you to be perfect. They just need you to be there.
Trust me, they won’t remember if the house was spotless or if you whipped up a gourmet meal. They won’t care if you didn’t have all the answers or if you were still figuring things out as you went along. What they will remember are those small moments that mean the world: bedtime stories, walks in the park, the jokes and laughter at the dinner table, or just being there to listen when they have had a rough day.
Fatherhood is not about having it all figured out. It is about showing up, being present, and giving it everything you have got—even when you’re knackered, stressed, or just not feeling it. It is in the little things: the hugs, the reassuring words, the high-fives, or just sitting together in comfortable silence.
Your kids don’t need perfection; they need you. They need your time, your attention, your love. So forget trying to be some version of a perfect dad that doesn’t exist. Focus on just being present, because at the end of the day, that is what your kids will remember—the connection, the laughs, and the memories you have built together.
#dads #dad #parenting #parents #mentalhealth
To every early years staff member out there: Your sector is the most influential one in the country. Alongside parents, you shape childrn's brains & stress systms more than anyone else in their lives. Lots of ppl won't know how vitally important you are. So I'm saying: Thank you.
What a treat for Dolphin Class tonight as one of our superstars read our story to us. We were particularly impressed with his fab reading and also the way he used questions to keep his friends engaged and thinking #EllistonEYFS#EllistonPhonics#EllistonEnglish
Secure attachment during infancy lays the foundation for our lifelong mental and physical health.
As I wind down this week’s series on infant/toddler attachment, I wanted to conclude with a few final words about why it matters so much.
Obviously, strong relational connections between parents and children are beneficial in and of themselves.
But there’s more to it than that.
Attachment grounds and shapes our long-term mental health as well as our ability to enter into positive relationships with others.
You see, children who are securely attached tend to be just that: Secure.
This allows them to navigate the world independently, with confidence in themselves and their abilities.
It almost seems contradictory that independence would spring from dependence. But it most surely does.
The more love and care children receive during their earliest months and years and the more attentively and predictably their needs are met by treasured loved ones, the more they experience the world as safe place.
And this is a gift to both the brain and the body.
When the human body is not flooded daily with stress hormones and when anxiety occurs - not as a constant state - but more occasionally in response to life’s challenges, not only are we better prepared to deal with it - but our bodies don’t bear the long-term burden of a constant stress response.
This is a fascinating area of early development that we are still only beginning to fully understand, but suffice it to say that positive early experiences - both in the home and in conjunction with high quality early education and care programs- are increasingly linked to lifelong health.
This brain-body connection has huge implications not only for individual children, but for our public policy.
A tweet is hardly the place to unpack this conversation in full, but know that my new book, The Daycare Myth (which can be ordered from the link in my bio) explores in detail the disconnect between what we know about the science of early development and how it is enacted (or, more frequently, not enacted) in our public policy.
The costs - both developmentally and economically - are astronomical.
And not only to individuals, but to taxpayers - who would be far better served by making small investments in getting things right in the first place than paying for the results of our inaction across the lifespan.
It all begins with attachment.
Thanks for following along this week!
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This lovely video - which, to be clear, is NOT an illustration of insecure attachment - was shared to IG by olliejamesfaulds.
Good to see infant mental health & the great support at universal/targeted levels making the news. But, some families need specialist parent-infant therapy.
Specialist services have to be available otherwise babies in greatest need cannot be helped.
https://t.co/2m3Rlp4rcq
Watch our newest candidate speak up for the youngest members of our society. As political parties debate tax and spend policies, the Baby PM reminds us: "It’s the economy, stupid!" Learn more here: https://t.co/Kg67GhMG6S
#IMHAW2024#SpeakUpForBabies