In life, use every unfair advantage you have to your benefit be it looks, genetics, connections, family wealth and inheritance, curves...whatever it is.
Life is not a soap opera. Do not choose the hardest path to act noble when an easier path still takes you home. People ultimately judge you on results and outcomes: not your tribulations in the Egyptian Desert to Canaan.
-Dr Baros.
In a world full of boys chasing women, drugs, and sex.
Be a man who is busy fixing his finances, body, mind, and a strong relationship with God. Trust me, You'll go far in life.
Be ordinary. There is nothing wrong with an ordinary life. Wake up slowly. Make your coffee. Cook simple meals. Go for walks. Love people who match your vibe. Do honest work. But the thing is... bring your whole awareness to it. Every little thing you do, be there. That’s what changes everything. Stop rushing through life. When you are fully present, even the simplest things become beautiful. A quiet morning. A good conversation. A book in your hands. The warm sun on your skin. Stop trying so hard to create a special life. A special life is the one that aligns with your heart. Live an ordinary life with extraordinary awareness. That’s what makes it special.
You suffer because you try too hard to control. You cling to people, outcomes, ideas about yourself. You take it all so seriously and it makes you anxious and stressed. Release and let go. Live life the way you would hold sand. Not with a closed fist, but an open palm.
Evlendiğin an, bekar hayatındaki özgürlük ve çılgın partiler (ki aslında evde pijamayla dizi izliyordun) gözünde bir anda bir Rönesans tablosu gibi romantikleşir. Evlenmediğin an ise pazar kahvaltısında tek başına tost yerken, evli çiftlerin kuş cıvıltıları eşliğinde organik reçel yediği yanılsamasına kapılırsın. Sorun evlilikte ya da bekarlıkta değil tatlım, sorun senin o ulaşamadığın öteki seçenekte gizli olduğunu sandığın ama aslında hiç var olmamış olan o gizemli mutlulukta. Yani neyi seçersen seç, o seçmediğin yol sana hep kaçan balık büyük olur dedirtecektir.
İnsan, elindekini değil, her zaman elinde olmayanı arzular. Arzu, doğası gereği tatmin edilemez bir şeydir. Çünkü arzu, nesnenin kendisine değil, o nesnenin sende yarattığı eksiklik duygusuna yöneliktir.
Evlenirsen pişman olursun. Evlenmezsen de pişman olursun. Çocuk yapsan da yapmasan da pişman olursun. Kierkegaard bunu 200 yıl önce şöyle söylemiştir:
"Neyi seçersen seç pişman olursun. Çünkü sorun tercihlerinde değil yaşanmamış bir hayatı romantize etmendir. İnsan her daim gidilmemiş bir yolu cazibeli ve gizemli bulur. Bu yüzden mesele en doğru seçimi yapman değil. Hangi pişmanlıkla yaşayacağını seçip karar vermendir."
Sen neye karar verdin?
After watching most of my friends failed marriages, I realized one truth:
A loyal partner and a peaceful marriage is one of the world's most underrated blessings.
The real purpose of wealth is freedom. Freedom to slow down. Freedom to not rush through your own life. Freedom to spend your days doing things that you actually care about. That’s what money is really for. Not to impress strangers. Not to collect expensive distractions. But to buy back your time. A quiet breakfast without checking emails. Long dinners without looking at the clock. Conversations without feeling rushed. A two-week vacation where your nervous system finally relaxes. Time to read. To think. To explore your interests deeply. That’s real wealth. Everything else is noise.
A weak man uses morality to excuse his lack of strategy. He wants the world to reward his good intentions, clean heart, and honest effort. But reality is not your mother. It does not care that you meant well. It rewards positioning, leverage, timing, competence, and the ability to act without needing permission from your emotions.
Don’t force life, flow. Be slow when the world is addicted to fast. Don’t follow trends. Create your own rhythm. Go to bed early. Wake up before the noise. Eat simple foods. Go for long walks without your phone. Read thick books nobody has the attention span for anymore. Keep your circle small. Keep your life private. Avoid drama at all costs. The world will call it boring. But trust me, there is nothing boring about having a calm nervous system. A clear mind. A healthy body. A peaceful life that actually feels like yours. Most people are overstimulated, anxious, distracted, disconnected from themselves. You don’t need more of that. What you genuinely need is depth. Stillness. Meaning. And you can choose the life that makes you feel more like yourself. Depth over noise. Always...
it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself