Mixed signals are only mixed to you, but they’re not mixed to the person sending them. Whilst someone can genuinely like you, enjoy your company, find you attractive, care about you and even have feelings for you, they can also know that this isn’t going to last. To them, this is temporary. Something they’re enjoying in the present, but not something they see themselves investing in long term. You could be here for now, an itch they need to scratch, fulfilling a particular emotional need. You could be a distraction from their problems. A distraction from an ex, from loneliness. You could simply be somebody they enjoy while also knowing, deep down, that this isn’t the relationship they ultimately want for themselves and they’re selfish enough to keep you around while they figure that out.
To everyone still sitting in the middle of something that hurts them still making excuses, still hoping the next version of this person will be the one they promised to be I just want to say: you are not weak for staying this long. Love does that. Real feelings do that.
the best thing your partner can do is learn u .. not just love you but understand you, know how to show up for you, recognize your silence, remember the little things & make you feel seen. it’s never about grand gestures, it's about being intentional in the ways that matter most