a friend of mine died last year. worked in tech. 😐
he was 28. nobody from his company came to the funeral.
his slack account was deactivated before the obituary was published.
within 2 weeks, someone else had his job title.
i don't say this to be dark.
i say this because we give companies our health, our nights, our anxiety
and they give us a title that outlives us by 72 hours.
According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
what doesnt kill you will have you naming 5 things you can see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste