True power is found when one is calm. Anybody can react, rage, argue, or lose control. Strength is being able to remain composed when everything around you is trying to pull you out of yourself. A calm mind sees clearly, moves deliberately, and rarely gives people the satisfaction of controlling its response.
Nothing stays with you like realizing nobody is coming. No rescue. No safety net. You came from nothing, had nobody to lean on, and at times felt like you were nothing. That kind of loneliness either breaks you or builds something in you that can’t be taught. Eventually, you stop waiting to be saved and become the person you were waiting for.
There’s strength in saying, “Maybe I’m the bad guy,” and walking away quietly. No 47-paragraph explanation. No begging to be understood. No courtroom defense of your character. Just leave. Time has a funny way of exposing who was telling the truth, who was pretending, and who needed a villain to protect their own version of the story. TIME. Let it testify.
The part that stays with me is knowing you knew exactly how down I was for you and still chose to play with me. That wasn’t confusion. That was a decision. And once I see that clearly, I can never look at you the same.
How did you think prices of House Rent increased so sharply in Nigeria?
It is majorly about the greed of our countrymen. Jobless people who created jobs for themselves through 'Agency" work, due to the poor regulation of that sector, which is supposed to be handled by only trained and registered Valuers, approached landlords to give them free hands to bring in tenants. They approached fraudsters who were ready to pay any amount, usually inexperienced young boys with money they never worked legitimately, with time, for, to rent those houses. They put it higher than the actual value of the rents based on facilities in the property and also used that mechanism to extort percentages of their agency fee. Since it looked attractive to the landlords, they let it stay. Landlords don't have access to Fraudsters, it is agents and some Lawyers who are approached that bring them in. When they inflate these rents and the fraudster goes broke, he leaves. They won't decrease and legitimate workers who are desperate because of housing deficit would have to cough out what they don't earn to pay rents.
When people set their ring lights and keypads to talk about the contours of their private lives online and all the dirty things that befell them, what exactly goes through their minds?
Is it that if people know, they'll feel better or they just enjoy being hailed or condemned?
I still try to understand it.
Make a commitment to yourself: never give up on who you are or who you’re capable of becoming. Even on the days you question your strength, remember how much you’ve already survived just to stand where you are now. Doubt may visit, exhaustion may speak, life may test you, but none of that gets the final word. Keep going. There is still more of you left to become.