Until we stop regarding pornography as an "issue" to be tackled and start regarding it for what it is - a visual depiction of the imagination with us since art began - we'll have no idea how to approach it. And all attempts to "regulate" it will only make things worse.
Adult film star Veronica Avluv was asked what she likes about rough play. Her answer wasn’t about pain. It was about the one thing she doesn’t get in real life: not being in charge.
She says she’s now a switch, but for many years, way before porn, she sought out being submissive. There’s one rule for her: “I don’t do fear.” Her thing, she says, is “being obedient and being really eager.” She loves intensity, though she doesn’t need it all the time.
Then she describes what happens when it works. Certain things trigger her body into an adrenaline rush, and she goes into what’s called subspace. “I like going into that place and just almost losing all concept of time and space and just being a sensation.” She calls it “freeing” and “a relief.”
The reason, she explains, is simple. For people who are in charge of everything all the time, being allowed to not be in charge is the point.
It doesn’t always work. She says she doesn’t like being caned. It doesn’t give her that sensation, and “it makes me go, oh, get away from me.” The moment it happens, she says, she goes right out of subspace.
Is it easier to let go when you’re the one who’s always in control?
the thing about findom is that 98% of us here are here to take our power back from the patriarchy that has spent it's entire existence trying to make us lesser than men. i am not going to bow down to the desires of a man just because he may think i owe it to him to do so. he would be very wrong.
the only men i want in my vicinity are the ones who are giving up their power and their money to me without any hesitation. remember, you do not owe a man who has done 0 for you anything.
“findom is toxic and unethical”
men profit from women’s sexuality and it’s a respected business model. women profit from men’s desire and suddenly everyone has a moral compass.
give me a break.
Want to make a shy little thing sit on my lap in a crowded train. Grope you where anyone who is looking can see. Keep quiet, we wouldn't want to let them all know you're just a dumb little slut for me would we? Just let me use what's mine and be good.
Mars is what you cannot tolerate in a relationship.
Mars in Scorpio cannot tolerate dishonesty, disloyalty or emotional manipulation. You want complete loyalty and emotional depth. Once you suspect someone is hiding something from you, your entire attitude towards them can change.
since I suppose the cat is out of the bag.. I did in fact put my notice in at my 9-5 to live a Princess life.
Idk I never thought it would be a reality until for the first time in my life my executive job was holding me back.
to bigger and better things in a city near you.✨
Repeat This 7x
I am literally obsessed with being me. everything about my identity is so beautifully aligned with the life i want. I am confident, magnetic, wealthy, adored, successful, lucky and incredibly powerful in the way i experience myself.
Nothing says "Thanks for your soul" quite like a full-body encasement in latex and metal shackles that just won’t budge . . .
If only she could do something about all that shouting . . .
i know a tweet of mine defending paying for adult content is making the rounds when all the dumbest piece of shit dudes on this app suddenly pop up in my mentions absolutely livid i’ve at all enriched hot women on the internet lol
Si seulement les maîtresses étaient plus méchante, j'aimerais me faire scam, qu'on me promette du contenu contre un paiement et que je reçoive jamais rien et qu'elle réclame d'autres paiements car ça "aurait pas marché" alors que le paiement est passé 2x déjà... 😵💫 #moneyslave
btw this is also a good way to "fix" your anxious overthinking sub 💜
Sometimes they just need to be overwhelmed with repeated shocks (just make up a reason) to push out all those bad thoughts and reset them. Once they're non-verbal and crying you can comfort them and make them realize how much better it is to turn off their brain and be your obedient pet 💜
This is the kinda shit you listen to when everyone around you is a brutalised slave, you just saw twenty people get torn apart by lions while thousands cheered, and tomatoes won't be introduced to the Italian peninsula for fifteen hundred years.
there is an oral sex technique called the Kivin method that approaches the clitoris from a perpendicular angle rather than the standard face on position, and sex therapists who teach it report that it reduces time to orgasm by approximately 50% compared to standard oral technique. the method is virtually unknown outside of sex therapy practice because it was never commercialized, never went viral, and doesn't photograph well enough for content. the technique exists in clinical manuals and nowhere else.
the standard oral position: the man lies between her legs, facing upward toward her. the tongue contacts the clitoris from below, moving in an up and down or circular motion. this is the position that 95%+ of men use because it is the obvious geometric arrangement. it works. it is not optimal.
the Kivin method: the man positions himself perpendicular to her body, lying across her thigh or positioned at her side. the tongue contacts the clitoris from the SIDE rather than from below. the motion is across the clitoral glans (left to right relative to her body) rather than along it (up and down). the perpendicular approach changes the angle of nerve stimulation in a way that activates a different distribution of the clitoral nerve endings.
the mechanism: the clitoris is not a uniform button. it is a structure with asymmetric nerve distribution. most women have higher nerve density on one side of the clitoral glans than the other (typically the left or right, varying between individuals). the standard up and down motion stimulates both sides equally. the perpendicular (side to side) motion allows the man to focus pressure on the side with higher nerve density. the asymmetric stimulation matches the asymmetric nerve distribution.
the practical technique: he lies on his side perpendicular to her body (his head at her hip level). his tongue contacts the clitoral glans from the side and moves in a side to side motion. he can also place one finger on the perineum (the area between the vaginal opening and the anus) and press gently. the perineal pressure activates the perineal nerve branch (covered in a previous tweet) and adds a secondary stimulation pathway. the tongue from the side plus the finger on the perineum creates a dual input that standard positioning cannot replicate.
the time reduction (approximately 50% faster to orgasm according to practitioners who teach it) is attributed to the combination of optimal nerve angle stimulation and the dual input (lateral clitoral stimulation plus perineal pressure). the technique doesn't work better because it is more intense. it works faster because it is more accurately targeted.
the technique is less physically comfortable for the man than standard positioning (the neck angle is different, the jaw alignment is unfamiliar). the discomfort is the reason it isn't commonly used. the technique that produces the fastest orgasm is the technique that is least comfortable for the man to perform. the comfort and the result are inversely correlated. the man who accepts the discomfort delivers the result.
@Indy11_ I am in a similar boat although I actually quit after more than a decade. I used to love going into the office and then I started dreading it. Still figuring out where I’m going from here. Wishing you luck!