𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝

Acts like i doesn't care... but shows up.

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

It's okay, l'll be fine

[𝐌𝐫.𝐊𝐀𝐋™ @dekim_Kalvino]

My landlord complained that I was bringing too many visitors into the apartment. He said, “This is a private residence, not a hotel. From now on, no more than 2 visitors at a time.”

I agreed.

The following weekend, 14 of my friends showed up...

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

And ladies, if you really want to know the difference between a man who genuinely cares about you and wants to build and one that’s just going to waste your time, I recommend you read my book because that’s exactly what I teach you.

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

If you’re a woman and you cannot get that one situationship out of your head, it might not actually have anything to do with you liking the guy. It might have everything to do with this one little chemical released inside your body called:1/3

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

Maybe you didn’t like him at all, and you’re kind of confused why you can’t get him out of your head. If you understand what oxytocin does to your body, it might have everything to do.3/3

[𝓐𝓺𝓮𝓮𝓵𝓪𝓱🧚🏼 @aqee_sofine]

Why online dating is a pile of garbage

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

Your Avoidant Doesn't Text You - But They Won't Let You Go Either

They don't reply for days. You tell yourself it's over. Then a meme appears. A late-night reaction.

A check-in that reignites everything you were trying to bury.

You keep thinking: If they wanted distance, why come back? If they don't care, why watch my stories, reach out, hold the door open just enough? 1/7

[✦ 𝐓𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐥𝐞 ✦ @teeteesunflower]

People always say I’m overly protective of my kids ok but we were at an appointment yesterday and a lady
Who’s kid was 7 came to where my daughter was coloring my daughter is newly 2 she started dumping the crayons out of the box onto the table the seven year old hit the table and screams at her “DONT DO THAT!! What’s wrong with you?” I instantly removed her and the girls mother comes over and was like oh it’s ok just say I don’t like when you do do that and looks to my daughter to apologize.

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

AN AVOIDANT CAN MISS YOU DEEPLY AND STILL NEVER REACH OUT.

They can think about you, reread old messages, replay the good moments, and still choose silence.

That is what makes it so brutal.

Their silence starts feeling like proof that you meant nothing, while the truth may be much messier: missing someone and knowing how to stay connected are two completely different skills. 1/7

[Capo @bettcapo]

This got to be the worst era to be homeless in, someone walking by in a suit probably got less money then you do 😂

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

You’re not going to be seeking external opinions, asking, “Hey, do you think this guy likes me? I can’t really tell.”

No. It’s going to be an overwhelming amount of consistency to the point where you’re scared because you’re like, “Why is he doing everything so perfect?”3/3

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

If a man truly loves a woman, he will never leave her wondering where she stands with him.

When a man is all about it, when he really wants her, even in the early stages, when you guys first start getting to know each other, maybe you’ve only been out on a couple of dates, he’s going to be:1/3

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

very consistent.

He’s not gonna let an entire week go by without taking you out on a date. That’s a huge rule that nobody talks about enough.

If 10, 12, 14, 20 days, two weeks goes by and he has not taken you out on a consecutive date, you’re just an option. You are simply just in the background. He’s keeping you around for the attention and maybe the short-term fun.

When a man is really serious about a woman, you’re not going to be confused.2/3

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

My mother went back to therapy this week.

When I asked how it went, she said,

“Apparently, I apologize too much.”

I laughed and said,

“You do.”

She immediately replied,

“Sorry.”

We both just stared at each other.1/15

[✦ 𝐓𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐥𝐞 ✦ @teeteesunflower]

A very interesting short story: WILL I BE THE A-HOLE for refusing to continue to pay rent and bills for my unemployed mother and brother.

I am writing this on behalf of my niece because me alone telling her that her mother (my sister) is in the wrong is not getting through. I have her permission to post this and she says she will read and consider the blessed hive's response. * The facts: Mom has direct access to her and her brother's bank accounts and takes out whatever she wants for "rent"

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

My therapist asked me one question that made me rethink every argument I've ever had:

"Why does someone being upset with you feel like an emergency?"

I said:
"Because I need to fix it."

She asked:
"Or because, growing up, someone's bad mood usually became your problem?"

I went quiet.

Then she gave me 9 signs you learned to fear other people's emotions before you learned to trust your own: 1/13

[✦ 𝐓𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐥𝐞 ✦ @teeteesunflower]

Yesterday I had the morning from hell. Murphy’s law in full effect. My alternator went out on my car, battery on the e-bike died 4 times taking my son to school, my mom woke up complaining about the sound of water 🤦🏽‍♀️, caused an unnecessary argument and I also had a interview for a job I really want at 9:30am. The dying e-bike delayed the school drop of until 9:15. Interview in 15 minutes home is 30 minutes on bike (thats dead). Boom 💥

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

4 MESSAGES THAT MAKE AN AVOIDANT RECONSIDER EVERYTHING

These aren't about manipulation. They're about emotional maturity. They don't come from panic - they come from clarity.

1. "I've said what I needed to say. You don't have to respond right now."

Removes pressure while keeping your dignity intact.1/7

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @LEGENDBANKS]

$3m before 30.

[LIBSTAR @iamlibstar]

$2m before 30.

[Softboy @softcreateee]

No doctor, I don’t want to be prescribed antidepressants

I want you to prescribe me a paid year off so I can recover from burnout and exhaustion without drowning financially