Is anyone else ever genuinely shocked when you find out you have an impact on someone's life? A coworker can be like "I've missed seeing you" and I'm just like "???? you?? missed me????? My presence has an effect on your daily experience???? i affect things??? What???"
when I got formally diagnosed, my oldest sister was like "you're not autistic. if all those things mean you're autistic, then our whole family is autistic"