me being self centered saves me from being a hater or envious of others because I dont even be paying enough attention to folks to even come up with certain conclusions
Maturity is realising being single lets you live in theory & relationships drag you into practice. And practice is messy. Think about it: you can spend years reading about forgiveness, but you only discover your capacity when someone wounds you.
I no longer need hardcore proof to validate what my intuition tells me. If something feels off about a person/ place/thing, it's because something is off. I'm not sticking around to discover what it is. My time & my energy are way too valuable.