the thing is, kinning isn't always just a personality trait
sometimes your mindset aligns with that of the character, even if you don't act the same way on the outside
I once knew someone who would “kin” characters but none of them were like her at all so she would then artifically pretend act like them. Like youre not some chaotic gremlin or serious edgy badass youre berdly
unfortunately i do love the trope of someone getting groomed when they‘re younger, becoming manipulative over time as a result, and then using that to influence and control the older person. reverse grooming, if you will.
what if i talk about my f/o like my husband of 20 years who i hate and cant stand anymore but im afraid of the social stigma of divorce so i make their life miserable instead