if you're going to the lake to be a miscreant-sunburned-hooligan and do miscreant-sunburned-hooligan things this weekend, THE LEAST you can do is take your miscreant-sunburned-hooligan trash with you when you go home.
My 5 year old son has the hardest time going to sleep. He usually will get up out of bed at least once to test me.
Tonight it was twice. Exhausted and frustrated, I could feel my patience waning.
“Daddy!”
“COLTON, GO TO BED,” I barked.
“But daddy, I need you.”
And just like that, I melted. There was something about those words that pierced me. “I need you.”
There will come a day sooner than I’d like where he will say those words to me for the last time. Sons do not need their fathers forever, after all.
So, I walked into his room, I got on one knee and I told him how special it was to me that he needs me to put him to sleep every night. I told him he won’t need me like that anymore when he’s a grown man and so it makes tonight special. I feel like he understood. He was fully in the moment with me.
Then I rubbed his back and his head for a few minutes, kissed him, and said goodnight.
He was asleep 5 minutes later.
I realized that in that moment I could have easily lost my temper and scolded him for refusing to go to bed (something I’m guilty of doing before) — and I would have missed out on this absolutely priceless moment with my young son who is growing by the day. And for what?
The older I get, the more I realize how important the seemingly insignificant decisions we make all day every day really are. They compound just like an investment and over years, you could miss out on an unfathomable amount of value in the most priceless asset: time.
Going to try to remember this night.
Emotional monitoring is different than empathy.
Empathy is the ability to see a perspective of another person and to resonate with what they're feeling. It provides a sense of belonging and bonds people together.
If you want to be a new runner by 2024
1️⃣Take 3-6 months to build your strength base 🏋️♀️
Lift several times a week. Work your legs and back hard. Run just enough to stay fit. Use 🚴 to supplement.
2️⃣Take 3-6 months to build your aerobic base 🏃🏼♂️
Stack the slow miles. Speed once a week. Lift 1-2x week to maintain your strength.
If you are starting out as a runner or have been struggling with injury this is the approach I’d recommend.
Dedicating a period of time towards building your body is a long-term investment in your running✅
Beware The Jogger
Comfortably taking his time
Shuffling in the morning shadows
Slow & easy all the way every day
His jog looks almost effortless
That is the plan
Months later you see The Jogger
Roaring past at Mile 24
Not jogging this time
That was the plan
Ay, the turtles are out:
🐢 Stop to move them only if you can SAFELY PULL ENTIRELY OFF THE ROAD.
🐢 Grasp the shell firmly.
DO NOT fumble the turtle.
🐢 Move the turtle off the road in the direction it was already heading.
🐢 Then go back to minding your own business.
“If they wanted to they would” isn’t always true.
Lots of people want things.
They just lack the knowledge, the communication skills, and the self trust to follow through.
3 contrarian takes on productivity:
1. Driving in silence is more productive than driving with podcasts on 2x speed.
2. Resting for 15 minutes between meetings is more productive than filling the time with a work task.
3. Reading slowly is more productive than reading quickly.
The antidote to passive-aggressiveness is not brutal honesty. Candor without care just makes you an asshole.
Communicating well is being direct in your message and kind in your delivery.
The goal isn't to sugarcoat the truth. It's to make it clear that you're trying to help.
My go-to order when I go out for breakfast is an omelette/scramble with potatoes. It usually comes with 2 pieces of toast.
I often ask for two extra eggs (140 calories) but hold the toast (at least 250 calories), but when you add eggs everyone thinks you’re trying to bulk up.
5 Stoic lessons from Seneca:
1. We suffer more in imagination than in reality
2. Associate only with people who improve you
3. The greatest remedy for anger is delay
4. Value your time more than your possessions
5. Death is not in the distant future. We are dying every day