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@theyenvymybrain @Magbonck3j @AcctPogo okay bro

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@theyenvymybrain @Magbonck3j @AcctPogo doesn’t fix it, but gives her a good initial framework to work with. from there external factors (friends, experiences, algorithms) etc obviously influence it. but a girl with a good father/home has a far better chance of having a healthy approach to it all than one who doesn’t

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lmao ok i’ll bite this once. overarching point is that you shouldn’t have to always say yes to anyone, doesn’t matter whether it’s a man or woman. but in this situation we’re discussing it in terms of women within the context of a relationship. e.g guy x has a girlfriend, they’re at a party and have had a couple drinks and he notices she’s starting to get very drunk. she wants another cocktail and he tells her no she can’t have one. he’s not saying no to her to ‘put her in her place’ he’s enforcing that boundary because it’s the right thing to do and he cares for/is trying to protect her. main point is it’s about the intent behind the no

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@GoGrowBeth @Magbonck3j @AcctPogo feel like you’re purposely choosing to misunderstand what we’re acc tryna say so let’s just leave it at that

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@GoGrowBeth @Magbonck3j @AcctPogo agreed. but not once did anyone in this thread talk about putting women in their place. nuance between doing something coz it’s the right thing to do and doing it simply just to spite someone

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generally speaking yes. if a girl comes from a good home she’ll have a father she loves and respects, and she’d want a husband/boyfriend who she does the same for. in both cases that love and respect is formed through being kind, caring etc towards her but also enforcing boundaries, saying yes to her when it’s warranted but also saying no when that’s warranted etc. @AcctPogo is basically saying this is outdated though coz modern women (mainly in the west) are being conditioned (by the algorithms, female dating coaches etc) to seek relationships where they have all the power which is true to a degree. caveat imo tho is that these women exist in an echo chamber, irl the majority of normal girls would still want a conventional relationship like the one i initially described

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@trueyerbamate yeah. definitely a case by case scenario depending on the culture you’re living in and type of girl you’re dealing with

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@AcctPogo agree to a degree tbf. women are being conditioned to seek out yes men, and if you’re not that type of guy they view you as ‘toxic’ or as though your ego is too much and they eject

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it’s a paradox. i think the most attractive people have both masculine and feminine features. irina shayk, margo robbie, angelina jolie etc have very defined faces which tends to be more so associated with masculine beauty but its balanced out with their feminine features. same goes for attractive men/pretty boys, they have masculine features (strong facial features etc) but its balanced out by feminine ones, full lips n eyebrows, nicely shaped eyes, long lashes etc.

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@lymphnoah @FrenchOG3 if those ain’t the type of girls you want then yeah gotta switch it up

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@lymphnoah @FrenchOG3 find guys who are the same ethnicity and have similar features to you, and you’ll know which archetype you fit into. from there it’s a case of experimenting with your look (hairstyle, fashion sense etc) and figuring out what looks best on you

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@AcctPogo 1000% bro, genetic lottery at the end of the day but got blessed forsure. best archetype imo too coz you can pull off virtually any look. done the braids, afro, buzz cut etc, all looked good. keeping short hair rn tho coz long hair is too much maintenance lmao

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@AcctPogo the lean, athletic pretty boy with a bit of muscle mass will always lap the bodybuilder. always

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one thing i’ll add to this is i feel like a lot of guys think ‘chad’ is the be all end all when it comes to male attractiveness (and i say this as someone who falls into that category of being a stereotypical chad/pretty boy) when in reality it’s just one archetype of male that females find attractive, some women like guys who are a bit more rugged, others like guys who are more twinky etc. there’s a whole spectrum of looks that women find appealing not just chad

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@YOHAMI yeah of course. i agree with that

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@YOHAMI never really agreed with the idea of approaching a girl unless she’s giving you choosing signals. literally the equivalent of sending a cold email. thoughts?

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@FrenchOG3 i’ve noticed this as well. even though i’m in my 20’s my likes predominantly come from 30+ year olds, it’s only the case on bumble though

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@YOHAMI let people hear your music summarises this perfectly