@CartoonsHateHer I was telling someone that I miss maternity leave because of how much TV I got to watch and he told me that he and his wife never once had the TV if their newborn was in the room with them ๐ตโ๐ซ
I remember joining the Statesman almost 11 (!!) years ago and thinking it was a stepping stone to something bigger. But Iโm glad I realized how valuable community journalism is, and the value I could bring to it as someone who grew up in Idaho.
Not sure where to put that now.
@Stayfreshchees3@brittilina Like, idk why I'm still arguing with you, but I am OVER the idea that brand new moms should have to be thinking about "fairness" when the experience of childbirth should be centered on them.
@Stayfreshchees3@brittilina I never said I wanted to wait weeks/months? This whole conversation is about ~fairness~ in who sees a baby, and that framing led to me having a bad start to motherhood. Moms should feel empowered to express their need in a vulnerable time, especially from those who love them.
@Stayfreshchees3@brittilina what is there to gain by pretending its not a major medical event? childbirth was gross, i was gross, there was a lot of blood all around. the problem is there is an expectation that in-laws be invited to the hospital and its hard to set boundaries after All That.
@Stayfreshchees3@brittilina I had perpetually been through 36 hours of active labor, four hours of pushing and an emergency c-section. It is weird that it was expected that people come visit!!! I had just Been Thru It
@smalltown_wife@brittilina sorry to remind you that childbirth is gross????? I had just been through the most traumatic event of my life and then immediately to spend a week making small talk with four boomers while regularly excusing myself to change my own diaper.