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In anything you do in life, don't get used to crumbs. Make no mistake, they’ll times we may be forced to accept crumbs to move ahead, but make sure you are aware it is crumbs, and you deserve better. And if you accept crumbs for so long, you may start seeing it as normal.
I myself am a "men". Most of my friends are also a "mens". I have no idea who African women are referring to when they say that "men" prefer women who wear wigs over their natural hair. I can use myself and my sizeable friend group across 9 countries on the continent as enough of a sample size to categorically state that African men overwhelmingly prefer their women's natural hair.
Yet everytime this conversation pops up, we hear about this mythical creature called a "men like women in wigs." On behalf of African men, allow me to say it again that if "men" prefer female wigs over female natural hair, then we must be women - that does not apply to us at all.
We grew up with you people. You are our sisters, cousins, schoolmates and friends. The first picture of the female form that we saw and fell in love with as your brothers, nephews and high school boyfriends was you in your natural state. I don't think you realise how powerful that is. The girl from the next classroom that was every African boy's first love was a girl appearing in her natural state. That is the default picture of love that stays with us for life! We did not wake up one morning at 17 and suddenly decided that female beauty = a woman wearing a Hollywood production on her head.
That is fake news!
We've always loved you as you are.
The real issue is that you are receiving commercial messaging and social engineering propaganda to convince you that your natural state is incomplete, so that you will spend money to "fix" what was never broken, and some white guy somewhere gets paid off that. We do not control any of the messaging you are receiving! We don't control any social media algorithms. We don't control your TV programming. We don't control Netflix, Amazon Prime, Hulu, Disney+ etc. We don't make TV and movie casting decisions.
We don't own any of the supply chains and factories built around manufacturing your insecurity - the most we can do is retail these products that somebody else put in your mind, manufacturer in a Chinese factory, and shipped to your country. If we were the ones in control of any of these things, we would never push such products on you. Even drug dealers don't sell drugs to their own family members.
Anyway that's precisely the problem - we're the world's least powerful men and our weakness has built a superhighway for every Tom, Sandeep and Chung to dump toxic ideas and products on our women and leave us to deal with the fallout. It is precisely because we don't control Media, Politics, War, Industry or Logistics that we haven't built a physical and psychological wall around our women, unlike every other group of men on the planet.
Our weakness as a group is what has left our women's minds and bodies defenseless and open to exploitation from anyone and everyone - to the point where they literally look at their natural form in the mirror and think there is something they need to correct about it. They know that as a group, the only thing we offer to them is penis and they have learned to discount whatever we say, even when we tell them that they're beautiful as they are.
This is a problem that the African rebellion will naturally solve.
When African men take our rightful place in the world and begin exercising power as we should, nobody will need to tell African women that their beauty is not enhanced in any way by laying a dead Indian woman's hair above their own.
Power fixes these problems.
@Osi_Suave It’s more common than you think. And it’s because our primary and secondary healthcare is lagging. Hence all cases make it to the teaching hospital even ordinary uncomplicated malaria.
The best role model for men is a successful family man who has done well financially, has a good social standing, and has been married for over 30 years with well adjusted kids who love him.
@Harrybond__007@Tsarina_muna lol. You’re lucky you can easily do walk-ins and get to see a physician like it’s nothing. It’s the reason you show up as you like. In saner climes, you will wait!
turning 30 today
the biggest lesson from my twenties is to never mistake your current trajectory for your destination
no matter how fucked you think you are, a few years can rewrite everything
keep going
This massive increase in Marijuana prices, while also reducing the Quantity sold will Eventually lead to Frustrated 9ja youths to start doing Cheaper and Harder drugs especially Colos. Hope we are Ready for the psychiatric Fallout. It’s already Started in the Trenches. 😷✌🏽
Not to be that person, but our literary/visual understanding of romantic expressions as Africans are very much defined by white standards. Yes, even in love, we are colonised.
Otherwise what concerns an African woman with hair tucking? Her Afro (or braids) don’t move that way 😭
Nigerians lack self-respect man. Chai. Our people were lynched in daylight in that country but some are making a case for why one of their artists deserves to perform in our country. Heck you can listen to her music but she coming on stage to perform for you? In these times? Kai.
The value of a language is not reducible to short-term monetary utility or current global dominance. It rests primarily on culture, history, identity, intergenerational continuity, and soft power. Languages encode worldviews, family bonds, historical memory, a unique identity and a sense of belonging that no “practical” lingua franca fully replaces.
You speak English today precisely because the English did not abandon their language when Norman French was the language of power, law, the aristocracy, and high culture for centuries after 1066. English persisted among the majority, only absorbed some French vocabulary, and eventually reasserted itself as the language of the realm. The Jews didn’t have such useless mentality for more than a millennia, under multiple conquests and sackings by multiple empires, constantly being being at their mercy, and being stateless and a minority in many lands, where many persecute them; they still held on strong to their language and still exist today when many others went extinct . The same pattern holds for Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Arabic, Hindi, Nordic languages, and others: they modernized, adopted Western science and technology, and still protected their languages rather than treating them as disposable peasant relics. Those languages later generated enormous soft power (anime, K-pop, Bollywood, literature, cinema) that increased their practical and economic value.
The claim that Igbo (or Yoruba, etc.) is useless outside Nigeria confuses current market demand with inherent worth. Many successful diasporas (Indian, Chinese, Korean, Jewish) maintain heritage languages alongside English or other global ones. Research consistently shows that heritage-language maintenance strengthens ethnic identity, family cohesion, self-esteem, and psychological well-being; it does not hinder acquisition of dominant languages. Bilingualism itself confers cognitive advantages in executive function, mental flexibility, and even delayed onset of dementia symptoms. Children can, do and should learn both.
Treating only “globally recognized” languages as worthy of priority is itself a product of Westernization and postcolonial undervaluation, not pure pragmatism. If economic dominance alone justified cultural erasure, one could equally abandon Igbo (or Yoruba, Hausa, Ibibio, etc.) cuisine, names, art forms, historical narratives, and ethnic identity to become a fully generic “Black Englishman,” since those too are less “economically viable” in many Western and global contexts. That logic is self-erasing. Identity elements that are non-dominant today can generate future soft power, community resilience, and personal rootedness; they do not need to clear a short-term ROI threshold to deserve transmission. Optimistic Idealistic realism should be the way to view reality.
Prioritizing English and French is reasonable. Framing the heritage language as something one should deprioritize or treat as optional luxury is not, especially for a language of a culture with a population of ~35–40 million in Nigeria
and ~5–8 million in the diaspora. It reflects a defeatist acceptance that one’s own cultural inheritance is inferior rather than a sober assessment of what actually benefits children long-term.
An abandoned language = an abandoned culture.
A dead language = A dead culture.
The first way to destroy and/or absorb an ethnicity or culture is by destroying the language .
Only Africans say this thing's tbh. Never heard this from any other group. Lot's of our people just don't understand self preservation outside of their personal selfs
I called my daughter who is on Campus on the phone. We started speaking in Yoruba.
Someone standing by knew it was my daughter I was speaking with.
She smiled because she was impressed.
My daughter speaks English and French too but you see that Yoruba? It is the real deal. If I lose my language, I feel I have lost my identity.
This is personal to me. It does not matter to some. Just make it in life is the goal for them.
But to the question "who Nigerian language hep? Na me biko:
"Èdè Yorùbá ṣe mí ní àǹfààní."
"Asụsụ Igbo baara m ezigbo uru."
Harshen Hausa ya yi mini amfani.
You nko? 😂
I’m always annoyed by those conversations. We are not looking to colonize the world or anything. We should learn our language simply because it is ours. Nke anyi, our own. Finish.
we watched the rise in the global usage of Japanese and Korean languages through their media because they used their languages.
over here, they would have dumped it from the onset because it had no economic value.
you'd think the economic value of languages is intrinsic +