🚨: Brain scans have revealed children living with unstable families (excessive, arguing, abusive and neglectful) have brain changes similar to combat soldiers after active duty
Emotionally intelligent men often see straight through your performative bullshit and still choose whatever will preserve equilibrium in the relationship. He will compel you to outgrow your habitual narrowness, and you will think your EQ is high until you encounter a man like that. Even at first glance or first meeting, you cannot discern who has high EQ, because they conceal it and reveal it incrementally over time.
Looking at how kind they are might make you feel like a bad person at times, but later you realise you are not actually a bad person, and they show you that you are simply human, then guide you toward greater kindness. High EQ men are, strangely, extremely violent when necessary as well. They have refined control over their strength and exercise it only when it is warranted. Incredibly self-aware, they become your mirror. They cannot tolerate disrespect and bullshit at all, they have extremely high principles and morals that they stick by.
He will not engage in your little tactics of destabilising the whole relationship just so you can feel something, your manipulative tendencies, your gaslighting, all of it will be laid bare because he simply will not participate in it.
Then it will be only you and yourself, sitting inside an emotional transformation while he is there, but he will not make it easier by interrupting your growth. He will also care for you, ensure there is always peace, and quietly protect you without putting anything on display. Having a man like this is a blessing, and social media will not advertise such men because these men do not parade their relationships online and are usually profoundly private.
dating an emotionally intelligent man is not for the weak and a lot of women say they want that until it’s time for him to actually show it and now you’re uncomfortable. because now he’s not reacting, he’s responding. He’s not yelling, he’s setting boundaries. He’s not chasing chaos, he’s choosing peace. And that forces you to face yourself. He’s gonna call out your patterns without disrespecting you.
He’s gonna communicate instead of shutting down. He’s gonna hold you accountable in a way that.